INTP Family Members

[Johnny]

Getting an email from my sister got me thinking about this again, and I thought I'd do it out loud this time.

My sister and I are twins, and we're both INTP. We come from a small family and all of us are quite introverted. Our family is quite clannish, and over time we continue to separate even ourselves with increasing physical and social distances. What I mean is this: though, of course, I am a branch in a tree of women, men, brothers, sisters, cousins, parents, grandparents, nephews, nieces, children, et al, I recognize only 6 members to be part of my family. The rest I do not know at all except for a few that I know only by name, but I would likely not recognize them. I am not motivated to know what I do not yet know about my family or interested in trying to put any pieces back together that were vigorously beaten by hammers of the past.

My sister is of the same attitude here as I am regarding the issue. As INTP'ers, do you see your family as I do...very small, clannish, and introverted? I guess this post in part offers a nod towards the nature/nurture debate with respect to the INTP personality preference...

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[INTrPosr]

As INTP'ers, do you see your family as I do...very small, clannish, and introverted? I guess this post in part offers a nod towards the nature/nurture debate with respect to the INTP personality preference...

Yepppp..... I consider my family, my two brothers, my dad and my deceased mother. However, as a parent I do see my children as family too. Usually this changes during the holidays, then everyone is considered family, but I can be very clannish.

[Groty]

Yes. My parents, brother, sister and I could be described as clannish. We moved to the south when I was young, separating us from the rest of the family in PA. It's not a bad thing, and I do agree with have little interest in digging below the surface.

Though, it is fun to occassionally sit with my uncles, smokin', drinkin' and hearing stories about my parents when they were young.

[Arcael]

extroverted wise, im like second only to my dad or brother
my mother and my other brother are more introverted than I

[Boozer]

I'm the most introverted in my family. We are all pretty clannish, not much in the way of extended family, which is weird for greeks.

[MacGuffin]

My sister and I are twins, and we're both INTP.

Does your sister post on here?

To answer your question: I consider my "family" to be my parents and brothers. Maybe my grandparents. When my wife and I have kids, I will consider them part of my family.

I call my aunts, uncles, cousins, etc. my "extended family".

A lot of this may depend on your background/culture. Probably more than personality.

[coffeezombie]

Almost everyone in my family is an introvert, especially my mother's side.

I'm the only introverted thinker in my immediate family, though. I get perceived as cold.

[jimkopelli]

My family is pretty close... the reason we moved to Missouri was to be near extended family (and save on air fares when they start dropping off...) but we live an hour away from the nearest clump. My dad is an E (I think) my mom is INTsomething and while I haven't tested my younger brother, he's even more of an introvert than I am.

[Johnny]

Does your sister post on here?

If she does and I find out it's her I would not reveal it without her permission.

[t]

my father's an INTP & my brother's an INFP. i always thought of my mother as an E, but honestly after having an indepth discussion with her, i truly believe that she's an I who's just developed her social skills. my mother & my brother look at my father and i as very cold (it was a huge reason why my mother divorced my father).

my immediate family's never been big with hanging out with the rest of my family. i've never really been close with my cousins or my aunts & uncles. this drove the rest of my family crazy because i'm italian, sicilian, & egyptian - all very traditionally family oriented cultures. my step dad's from lebanon and is very involved with his entire extended family and it drives my mother crazy. like everyone in my immediate family, i DESPISE holidays. my mother doesn't even decorate for christmas & if my dad hadn't married an ESFJ (they hate each other, but stay married for the hell of it - i'm convinced), he'd never decorate either. in fact, last year i didn't even come back home for thanksgiving and this year i'm staying away for thanksgiving and christmas.

since my father's the INTP of the family, i should note that his retirement plan includes buying a mobile home in the woods of new hampshire w/ no modern conveniences & definitely no phone. he told me that i'm the only person he'll give the address to b/c he knows i'll leave him alone. his wife plans on moving to florida when she retires and i think he's completely okay with this.

[Vagabond]

My mother and sister are extroverts, my dad is an introvert but soc, so you could say I am the most withdrawn one in my family. No heavy introverts in my wider family either. I seriously doubt any introverted thinkers - none in my close family. If there is a clannish attitude in my family, I am not part of it. I am the hermit.

[file cabinet]

I think my dad thinks I give him the cold shoulder.. so, he minds. I think it saddens him.
I don't talk to my sister.. I have no idea nor do I care if she minds(lives in the same house but her and I never really got along).
I barely talk to my mom.. I don't think she minds.

[Werdna]

I'm definitely the most introverted person in my family, and the most introverted person i have ever met. I think my dad is INTP as well, or at least INT. I have to show him this site, it would be interesting to see what he has to say about it.
My mother and sister are more extroverted. I never got along with my sister until she moved out, she is very Emotional. Nowadays we are much nicer to eachother.
I don't speak much with them but we get along, we're still family, and even if they don't understand me much at least they are used to me.

[Jezebel]

Most of my family are extroverts and not NTs. I'm an only child from a single parent household, but I didn't grow up exclusively with my father. I only know family on my paternal side. I have mostly lived with my grandparents, but also lived with aunts, uncles, and cousins at various times. I feel very, very different from most of my family and if we weren't related I don't think I'd get along with most of them.

[lauriep]

Most of my family are extroverts. My parents' love to throw parties so I grew up with a large circle of their friends that they considered as extended family. There was usually one or two "aunties" or "uncles" in the crowd that were introverts that I would feel close to and actually consider family.