INTPs in Relationships

[Jezebel]

I know we have several threads running on the board about what we want from others in relationships, but I'm curious about what you're like in a relationship.

Some questions, answer what you want...

1. When it comes to your personality, what strengths do you believe you have when it comes to successful relationships? What is it that you want to offer someone else?

2. What do you personally feel are your weaknesses in relationships?

3. Whether or not you agree with them, what have your mates, dates, exes, or anyone you've seen as having potential for a relationship seen as your strengths or weaknesses in relationships?

4. Does your personality seem any different around someone you're in (or interested in) a relationship with?

[Avengardh]

Hn, I'm answering all of them :D

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1. When it comes to your personality, what strengths do you believe you have when it comes to successful relationships?

Honesty, dependability, loyalty, and I am pretty sure that if I found the right person I would be affectionate. I am able to solve conflicts without getting into the whole drama-queen thing, that's just not my thing. I am pretty direct, if it's not going to work out, I will say something. I think about things a lot before I say anything so I will be sure of what's happening. I don't get jealous, if someone wants to play games they can find someone else, cause I won't play along :zzz: .


What is it that you want to offer someone else?

Pretty much what I stated above; I am way hard to get close to, but when someone is able to "win me over" (which can take an insane amount of time, years even) I am pretty loyal unless I am unhappy and get bored, but I will say something, I don't do cheating, I don't do drama, some might view me as pretty simple, but I don't need much to be content, just let me be free in my own way. More than anything, I want to offer someone my vision of life and my companionship/support.



2. What do you personally feel are your weaknesses in relationships?

Committment scares the hell outta me. I don't want to get married, it's not on my plans in life, or kids. I like to be alone a lot, and I don't think I am as touchy-feely as other females; but like I said, it might depend on the person.



3. Whether or not you agree with them, what have your mates, dates, exes, or anyone you've seen as having potential for a relationship seen as your strengths or weaknesses in relationships?

Strengths: they seem to think I am a really really really good friend/person and they don't deserve me (they might have been right, well, only one of them).

Weaknesses: I run away before it gets "heavy" or I start feeling caged; not touchy-feely, like being alone...


4. Does your personality seem any different around someone you're in (or interested in) a relationship with?

I honestly don't know...I need to know a person first, I don't base my interest in biological reactions, I am a slow-poke ^_^

[Division56]

LMAO, it will take years to win you over... and then you will leave if you get bored. :lol:

[Hypnos]

1. When it comes to your personality, what strengths do you believe you have when it comes to successful relationships? What is it that you want to offer someone else?
Toughness, independence, piercing insight, creative mindplay, a sense of beauty/wonder.


2. What do you personally feel are your weaknesses in relationships?
Empathy, i.e. understanding why people get upset/pleased with me; need for space/"quiet time".


3. Whether or not you agree with them, what have your mates, dates, exes, or anyone you've seen as having potential for a relationship seen as your strengths or weaknesses in relationships?
Negative: "asshole," "arrogant"
Positive: "confident," "smart," "charming"


4. Does your personality seem any different around someone you're in (or interested in) a relationship with?
Yes -- I become less detached/flat and more predatory. But, occassionally, I'm so taken that my confidence is shaken ...

[int]

OK - I'll talk. Hold on a sec...

[int]

Some questions, answer what you want...

1. When it comes to your personality, what strengths do you believe you have when it comes to successful relationships? What is it that you want to offer someone else?

Honestly? Detatchment. I'm able to seperate myself from the relationship, which entitles me the ability to think and find the root problem in a debate (or a highlight :) ). If I can communicate that issue we're on the road of success. Burden lies on the other person for my criticism (of BOTH of our mistakes) though. As far as what I offer, nothing but the wonderous self. If someone can deal and levels of mutual attraction can be met, we're golden.


2. What do you personally feel are your weaknesses in relationships?

Communication. Tough to explain. But if you keep asking I'll get annoyed and unload. Hope you can take it. Although it's never as bad as I make it out to be.


3. Whether or not you agree with them, what have your mates, dates, exes, or anyone you've seen as having potential for a relationship seen as your strengths or weaknesses in relationships?

I can take it. Good, bad, worse, horrible? Bring it on. I can solve problems. I can listen and give a perspective. If you don't want to hear something, and you tell me that, I'll keep listening. Just make sure I know I'm supposed to be listening. :)


4. Does your personality seem any different around someone you're in (or interested in) a relationship with?

Yes, at first. I actually have a theory where 2 people that are in love will act like idiot for 12 (plus or minus up to 3 months). I call it the "under a year syndrome." You've got about 2-3 months into the relationship before you turn into a dimwit (both men and women) for about a year. If you survive and there is no devastating drama, stick with the person.

I've got 100084387893279 more things to say about this topic but I've got to sleep soon.

[Avengardh]

LMAO, it will take years to win you over... and then you will leave if you get bored. :lol:

Lol, I never said it was easy ;)

[file cabinet]

1. When it comes to your personality, what strengths do you believe you have when it comes to successful relationships? What is it that you want to offer someone else?
I have no fucking clue. Not enough experience.

2. What do you personally feel are your weaknesses in relationships?
I don't know.. no experience :(

3. Whether or not you agree with them, what have your mates, dates, exes, or anyone you've seen as having potential for a relationship seen as your strengths or weaknesses in relationships?
nothing.. yet :( :(

4. Does your personality seem any different around someone you're in (or interested in) a relationship with?
the only females I see during the day are usually employees at stores if I buy something.. if I find the employee attractive I don't do anything though.. :( :( :(

[cjs55]

Same as above!

[Werdna]

Me too. What a bunch of depressing people..

[sbw]

me 4, we ARE a bunch of depressing people...good thing there's beer.

Scott

[coffeezombie]

I know we have several threads running on the board about what we want from others in relationships, but I'm curious about what you're like in a relationship.

Some questions, answer what you want...

1. When it comes to your personality, what strengths do you believe you have when it comes to successful relationships? What is it that you want to offer someone else?

2. What do you personally feel are your weaknesses in relationships?

3. Whether or not you agree with them, what have your mates, dates, exes, or anyone you've seen as having potential for a relationship seen as your strengths or weaknesses in relationships?

4. Does your personality seem any different around someone you're in (or interested in) a relationship with?

1. Um... I guess I can make good intellectual chat, but that's about it.

2. Not feeling compatible with most people. If I found someone I was truly compatible with, I wouldn't feel like I had a weakness.

3. Strength: That I can make good intellectual chat
Weakness: That I'm cold, selfish and detached

4. Yeah. I talk more. I want to find out everything I can about that person, after all.

[candela]

1. Hm. None

2. Resistance to spend money. Not realizing she's giving me subtle clues.

3. Strengths, I thought for a second no one has said anything positive about me concerning relationships, but this last girl said she felt like I really liked her unlike every other guy. She seemed to have to check with me on that an awful lot though. Weaknesses, I've heard that I'm hard to impress. Whatever that means. I'm not social enough. I don't give enough compliments apparently. Being honest when they ask questions about their appearance is apparently not what they mean when they agree with me on despising dishonest people.

4. Yeah, if I'm interested in someone I can't speak and I feel like I'm going to pass out. If I'm in a relationship with someone, maybe I'll smile more. I seem to try to entertain a bit more. I've only had a few relationships though. I've never been in a relationship with someone I was initially interested in by the way.

[Almaviva]

1. Sincerity and I'm easy to trust. No bullshit mind games, when I say something, you know I mean it. Intensity. I'm pretty easy to get along with, and don't need gifts or getting my feelings stroked. The main things I look for aren't what most other guys look for. I'm good at giving a logical perspective on things. I'm also good at calming people down and giving perspective when they're stressed out. I know myself extremely well compared to most people, and don't unload my own baggage on other people.

2. Someone who needs romantic atmosphere and to feel like everything is just perfect won't get along with me. I'm not good at expressing emotions, but compared to most guys, that's no big deal. I need a lot of time by myself, which can be a positive as well as a negative. It rules out dating someone who is very social though, and needs me in her circle of friends.

3. Same as 1 and 2. I've been called cold several times, although I don't agree with it, it's just an impression.

4. I have been pretty useless around women I've been interested in. People seldom like me very much at first, but I grow on them sometimes (like a fungus.) Once I'm comfortable with someone, it's more apparent how unusual I am, which some people like, and some don't.

[Bluehaze]

Hn, I'm answering all of them :D

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1. When it comes to your personality, what strengths do you believe you have when it comes to successful relationships?

Honesty, dependability, loyalty, and I am pretty sure that if I found the right person I would be affectionate. I am able to solve conflicts without getting into the whole drama-queen thing, that's just not my thing. I am pretty direct, if it's not going to work out, I will say something. I think about things a lot before I say anything so I will be sure of what's happening. I don't get jealous, if someone wants to play games they can find someone else, cause I won't play along :zzz: .


What is it that you want to offer someone else?

Pretty much what I stated above; I am way hard to get close to, but when someone is able to "win me over" (which can take an insane amount of time, years even) I am pretty loyal unless I am unhappy and get bored, but I will say something, I don't do cheating, I don't do drama, some might view me as pretty simple, but I don't need much to be content, just let me be free in my own way. More than anything, I want to offer someone my vision of life and my companionship/support.



2. What do you personally feel are your weaknesses in relationships?

Committment scares the hell outta me. I don't want to get married, it's not on my plans in life, or kids. I like to be alone a lot, and I don't think I am as touchy-feely as other females; but like I said, it might depend on the person.



3. Whether or not you agree with them, what have your mates, dates, exes, or anyone you've seen as having potential for a relationship seen as your strengths or weaknesses in relationships?

Strengths: they seem to think I am a really really really good friend/person and they don't deserve me (they might have been right, well, only one of them).

Weaknesses: I run away before it gets "heavy" or I start feeling caged; not touchy-feely, like being alone...


4. Does your personality seem any different around someone you're in (or interested in) a relationship with?

I honestly don't know...I need to know a person first, I don't base my interest in biological reactions, I am a slow-poke ^_^

Pretty much about 90% of what Avengardh said applies to me. The primary exceptions being that (a) I am not afraid of commitment and (b) I don't run away before it gets "heavy," but I may require time to think through the implications of such actions before continuing.