What do you do when good things happen to you?

[hemanthraz]

Firstly good things dont happen all that often and if they do I get really freaked out. I keep imagining where the next blow will come from.Seems cynical, but over the years ive noticed that is what usually happens all the time.

Also if things go as i planned them i get jittery.Its funny how the bad things never seem to faze me. Guess its because i base all actions on the worst case scenario.

Anyone else feel the same??

[PsiKik]

Identify 100%. You must be careful that worrying about worst case scenario doesn't turn into some self fulfulling prophecy.
I used to rationalise worrying about worst case scenario as some kind of preparation incase it happened, but it never does.
I am trying to focus on positive expectation, it makes life easier and more bearable.

[Birdsnest]

No, you are bound to have some good things happen, it can't be all bad. It does seem like things happen in groups, 2-3 either way. Just realize its not really luck, its more about what your expectations are, because you draw to yourself that which you expect. Expect a miracle and it happens.

[Chill]

Same we me. However, I've adopted this attitude of the Happy Pessimist. Because I figure, if you're a pessimist, you're either right, or pleasantly surprised. (Usually right). I know the worst is going to happen, but instead of dwelling on it like, I'm freed by it. The worst is probably going to happen, so fuck it, do whatever. And if the worst didn't happen, you're that much more prepared.

[FallenAngel]

Same we me. However, I've adopted this attitude of the Happy Pessimist. Because I figure, if you're a pessimist, you're either right, or pleasantly surprised. (Usually right). I know the worst is going to happen, but instead of dwelling on it like, I'm freed by it. The worst is probably going to happen, so fuck it, do whatever. And if the worst didn't happen, you're that much more prepared.
That's the way that I feel.

[waxwing]

I try and savor the good times and the people who are good to me, knowing that at any moment the world will become unbearably sad again. Beauty and goodness seem an outrowth of sadness and serious conflict, but all the more beautiful as a result. I don't know, really.

[Chill]

Oh yeah, but don't let pessimism get in the way of enjoying good times when they happen. Life's a crock of shit, but be sure to enjoy it every so often.

[Edmond Zedo]

I wake up.

[INTrPosr]

PsiKik said.....Identify 100%. You must be careful that worrying about worst case scenario doesn't turn into some self fulfulling prophecy. I used to rationalise worrying about worst case scenario as some kind of preparation incase it happened, but it never does. I am trying to focus on positive expectation, it makes life easier and more bearable.
Now that's 100% identifiable.

[Vylence]

No I don't identify. I generally think things are going to work out, and they always have.

[Avengardh]

Setbacks are realistically going to happen, but I hope for the best.

When the best does happen...then I guess I just feel better.
If not...then oh well, life goes on.

~*Aven*~

[Sackanaka]

I think one of the quotes from Vonnegut's Slaughterhouse 5 said it best: "So it goes."

[Arioch]

If the best happens well... wasn't it suppose to happen?

I probably worked hard enough to get it that way.

[Spartan26]

Generally take it as a blessing from God and pass along some of my good fortune to somebody else. There were times when I'd get some unexpected windfall and then worry that something was going to happen to my car that'd require exactly how much I got.

I can't say I really expect something in particular to happen, but if I'm faithful in giving of myself and my time, I feel like God's rewarding me because some rewards are clearly unrelated. Like going to visit some sick person then a few days later someone calling with extra tickets to a sporting event or advanced movie screening.

I remember a few years ago I had just started temping at this one office and because of some auditing, I only had to work two days then have a week off, then go back to the office. Well, I get this call to do a dialog punch on this script. Naturally I was stoked about it anyway, but it was supposed to be during the week that I had off. To me, Divine timing. When I start back, there's another writer temping in the office. I find out she's from Yale now working on her masters out here but in theatre. Well, it's easy to help someone who's a non-competitor, so I tried to hook her up with a few names and info that could be of help. But she totally thumbs her nose up at me and thinks I'm doing it to hit on her.

I suppose that could be a reasonable reaction. Reasonable, that is, if you weren't a hairy version of Olive Oil. SO self absorbed. She was complaining to me one day about there being five people in her track instead of three, so it cut into her stage rehersal time. Like she's never going to have to fight for stage time in the real world. Who knows what her type was. Maybe one of us because she seemed to think everyone was mentally inferior to her. Except I couldn't figure out if she was so smart, why would she work on a career as a playwright in Los Angeles? She was one to really get on the meat-is-murder soapbox, but then she showed up one day wearing a leather coat. Of course I couldn't let that go but I wasn't mean about it. Spray painting her would've been fun, not only for the whole leather business but I'm sure she would've freaked about the aerosol can depleating the ozone layer.

Oh, so where was I? I think if you pass along good fortune it takes away a lot of the worry pangs. As a Christian I'm taught I'm not supposed to ask "Why me" when something bad happens but I still will ask what, if anything, can I learn or take from this. If I adopt a mission attitude of why am I being blessed with good fortune, I can sometimes find someone in need (and generally not financially) that I might not have noticed before.

[Aryan]

Q: What do you do when good things happen to you?
A: Pee, and get off with the excitement ;P

[SheepDog]

If the best happens well... wasn't it suppose to happen?

That's my thought, though I might point it on a tangent. I've really taken this quote to heart: "It is neither good nor bad, but thinking makes it so." Sometimes we call things we want to happen "good" and things we don't want to happen "bad", but I try not to judge them that way.

I also trust my intuition quite a bit, and I find that things tend to work out fairly well most of the time. As long as the critical things like life and health are in place, what can go wrong? In any case, life is a journey, and there's really something to be appreciated in just about everything.

Or maybe I am just lucky?

[jimkopelli]

I go woo hoo and move on. Stuff happens.

[hemanthraz]

Guess i should be more positve, but years of experience doesnt rub off so easily.Also the kicks i get from something working out better than i thought is unbeatable. The trick is to not let the horribles ideas lull you into a state of apathy.

Seemed to happen all too often till my ever optimistic roommate came along. Seeing the way he goes about doing things i wouldnt touch with a 10ft pole, gave me a lot to think about.Made me realize i was missing a lot, by giving up before i even started.
Sure some of them wont work out, but some just might (just sometimes)

Ps: Luck is not an option in risk calculation. Its like an umbrella on a rainy day - nowhere to be found.

[Biff_Loman]

That's my thought, though I might point it on a tangent. I've really taken this quote to heart: "It is neither good nor bad, but thinking makes it so."

Absolutely. Hamlet, Act 2, scene 2.

Generally, when something good happens to me, I try to resist the natural temptation to think that things are "going my way." I don't want to become overly optimistic and lead myself into error.

I do play it safe, most of the time, but I am learning to counteract that tendency. The only area in which I truly risk is with respect to relationships; I go for broke, there, routinely. Big risk-taker.

[evil kitten]

I enjoy the moment, before something bad happens.

[ohnoaninfp]

I would be in shock. Normally bad things happen to me. If something good happens I would be thankful.

[Aryan]

I would be in shock. Normally bad things happen to me. If something good happens I would be thankful.

OH! you sound so terrible :rofl:

[Arioch]

When good things happen I give thanks.
When bad things happen I give thanks.

I generally just try to be thankful and content while still striving for better.