Trouble listening

[Slava]

Do any of you have trouble listening to people speaking (unless they are just spitting out facts) because you are focussing too much on correlating every single word to things you know (from any time or location). Sometimes I feel like johny 5, all I want is input in the form of logical truths (maybe thats why i hate when people lie). Also do you sometimes feel tense because you are suspicious about people because you can sometimes instantly see through what you think is a scam, but it really isn't meant to be? The worste is when you know you are about to be ripped off by someone but you can't find a polite way to point out their scam, sinc eits only intuition telling you and its not something you can politely explain without labeling the person (might escalate to a fight).

[Jezebel]

I sometimes have trouble listening because I'm thinking about something else entirely. I'll make eye contact with the person and it seems like my cues of saying "yeah" and "okay" are on auto. Then when I "come back" I'll have to tell the person to repeat whatever was just said because I didn't hear it.

I'm often too detached to care whether or not the person is lying so I'm not a very suspicious person. I'm trusting by default unless it's about something that could potentially harm me if they were lying, and I don't get that feeling much.

[file cabinet]

sometimes I'll sit in on business-type meetings.. I'm not really interested in most of it so it just goes in one ear and out the other. and if I'm given a task to do, I won't remember what to do if you tell it to me, but if it's written down then I will remember.. much like the to do list I have for this forum, I need a way to be accountable and see what I have and haven't done.

[Avengardh]

I have trouble listening when I am not doing something else...it's strange, I will have to be drawing or doodling to really be able to listen.

And then other times I can just focus, but most of the time I just want the person who is talking to get to the point and just go faster.

~*Aven*~

[Johnny]

Well, I'm not sure that it's so easy to know how another person is feeling, or even what he/she is thinking, without their help...and even then it can be challenging. But patience, understanding, and trust are things that we all deal with, whether good or bad in their nature, in our lives. Keep on living and such things can eventually become exciting prospects.

But I'm with Avengardh, I simply have to have my hands moving and doing something to listen at my most effective level, even if it's not easy to justify to the speaker or speakers. My hands are my life. Ironically, some companies recognize different learning techniques and provide doodle pads, colored markers, toys related to the topics to satisfy the tactile senses, and so on.

[nobarcode]

Do any of you have trouble listening to people speaking (unless they are just spitting out facts) because you are focussing too much on correlating every single word to things you know (from any time or location). Sometimes I feel like johny 5, all I want is input in the form of logical truths (maybe thats why i hate when people lie). Also do you sometimes feel tense because you are suspicious about people because you can sometimes instantly see through what you think is a scam, but it really isn't meant to be? The worste is when you know you are about to be ripped off by someone but you can't find a polite way to point out their scam, sinc eits only intuition telling you and its not something you can politely explain without labeling the person (might escalate to a fight).
Yeah, I DO listen, but there might be a million other things going on in my mind at the same time and I concur with deciphering the logic. Also, I tend to get easily distracted (or fixated on) by someone's body language, mannerisms, and other random things like looking at their pupils while they are talking. I often pay attention to eyes while talking. I'm more visual in general.

Yes, I am suspicious also. (the softer/gentler way of saying paranoid) And I could improve on my diplomacy.

[Slava]

Check out this link http://www-star.qmw.ac.uk/~rmh/addNP.html

[Jkrs]

I find that I can either look at someone, or listen to them. I can't concentrate on the sound unless I'm looking at something visually neutral.
When taking notes, I'll remember writing them later, but not what was said for me to write the notes from.

If I think someone is BS-ing, I'll usually make politely noncommittal noises, then disregard whatever they said. If it's about a set of events I'm about to be involved in, I'll claim I need more time to think, then usually never get back to them.

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Interesting link. Thanks.

[Vagabond]

I can't concentrate on the sound unless I'm looking at something visually neutral.
Now this is slightly (or a lot) irrelevant, but, when someone is talking and I am paying attention, I have caught myself looking at their mouth (as opposed to their eyes, which is what I stare at when I am the one doing the talking usually). I am a visual person alright, but isn't this a bit too much...? Anyone else noticed the same?

[Pati]

Yes, I find that when I listen intently I need to close my eyes or look at something else bland. And most people find that rude.
Also when I am speadking and need to think a bit I will look away,up and to the right usually. But then that is all part of Neuro-Linguistic Programming, isn't it? Since NLP is based on studying people who did things incredably does that mean...
I think I'll save that for another discussion!

[BritainOphira]

Now this is slightly (or a lot) irrelevant, but, when someone is talking and I am paying attention, I have caught myself looking at their mouth (as opposed to their eyes, which is what I stare at when I am the one doing the talking usually). I am a visual person alright, but isn't this a bit too much...? Anyone else noticed the same?

I catch myself doing this a lot in school. Either that or I try to look at whatever the speaker is looking at (such as a desk, corner, etc.) if they have are not looking in my direction.
As for the ADD thing, I've noticed that before and wondered if anyone else had. Guess I know now...