SolitaryWalker
3 Jun 2007, 11:29 PM
I am posting this here and not in the personal threads because I think the following is almost an exclusively INTP pattern...
When isolated do you tend to long for more F in your life and then find yourself seeking a close relationship with an NF. Yet, not long after you get overwhelmed by all the emotions that you're environed by in the relationship and are forced to abandon it? And when you try to explain the nature of the problem to the NF, they simply do not understand because they can hardly fathom how anybody could be disturbed by them being overly sentimental and insisting on emotional closeness. 'After all, emotional closeness is what relationships are about' they shall tell me. And I'd behave in that way not to spite them, but simply because it is imperative that I base my decisions only on internal standards, and that they are supported by dispassionate reasoning. 'The Fe claim of do this because I want you to is antithetical to resiliently autonomous and dispassionate mindset in a manifold of fashions.'
And also, when dealing with Fes and they try to tell you how to behave, do you find yourself doing the complete opposite of what they ask of you? In my case, I'd just ask them why should I behave in that way. And their basic rational is 'Because I want you to, what you were doing earlier was annoying me', some are more elaborate while making that claim than others, yet again almost all of them had a similar rational to this.
When isolated do you tend to long for more F in your life and then find yourself seeking a close relationship with an NF. Yet, not long after you get overwhelmed by all the emotions that you're environed by in the relationship and are forced to abandon it? And when you try to explain the nature of the problem to the NF, they simply do not understand because they can hardly fathom how anybody could be disturbed by them being overly sentimental and insisting on emotional closeness. 'After all, emotional closeness is what relationships are about' they shall tell me. And I'd behave in that way not to spite them, but simply because it is imperative that I base my decisions only on internal standards, and that they are supported by dispassionate reasoning. 'The Fe claim of do this because I want you to is antithetical to resiliently autonomous and dispassionate mindset in a manifold of fashions.'
And also, when dealing with Fes and they try to tell you how to behave, do you find yourself doing the complete opposite of what they ask of you? In my case, I'd just ask them why should I behave in that way. And their basic rational is 'Because I want you to, what you were doing earlier was annoying me', some are more elaborate while making that claim than others, yet again almost all of them had a similar rational to this.