Friends

[Oculus Sinister]

Do you ever get bored with them? My friend made a good point when he said once you have analyzed someone enough, there isn't much new to be offered there. I think he is also an INTP and would rather talk to strangers for the sake of fresh perspective then people he already knows. I can't help but agree. What do you think?

[s0978]

occasionally I like meeting new people but usually I prefer the company of good friends. Does your friend have shallow friends, or ones that are stuck in ruts maybe, hmm?

[Oculus Sinister]

I think he is just majorly introverted but not shy.

[Rice-Tactics]

Yes I do get bored with them sometimes. I respect all of my friends and I like them but I always want somebody who's a bit more intellectually stimulating. I've gotten used to their outgoing nature but I'd enjoy having a friend who has more introverted tendencies.

[xNTP]

I've had the problem of analyzing my SO's until they've become so predictable that I'm bored. It happens when you look at the person as a puzzle instead of as a companion. I don't really get bored with my friends, but I do feel the need now and then to go into hiding so I can collect myself.

[SolitaryWalker]

My relationships are focused on personal growth.

If I find someone who can stimulate my mind consistently and help me grow intellectually, over a period of time I'll come to appreciate them immensely and value the friendship very highly.

If they can't stimulate my mind, I will get bored with them, but I will not cut them loose, as this is against my ethical framework, yet such behavior on my part would leave the friendship with little energy to run on and hence it may wind down altogether because of this. But again, if they can stimulate my mind, I'll become fiercely loyal at some point. If I think that they have the potential to get there, I would want to meet with them as often as possible for the sake of challenging myself on a cerebral level and at the same time envisioning prospects of a close friendship sprouting on the grounds of our relaitonship helping me grow as a thinker.

If I think that they are intelligent, yet not stimulating enough to take my intellectual ventures to the next level, I may become bored with the relationship. Yet I'd chose to keep in touch with them anyways, because I like to keep my options open, and maybe because I'd think that our relationship may become more stimulating in the future. As for instance, I may inspire them to study subjects that we both will take great interest in and the activities that stem from them will yield great intellectual growth. In such a case, despite me being bored with an individual of that sort, I'd probably chose to see them once every 2-4 weeks. Would not want to spread myself any thinner, as then I'd run the risk of losing the relationship altogether. And if I were to engage them more, I'd probably be irritated enough with our association to terminate it. I wouldn't want that, in the long run I'd want to maximize whatever potential for my intellectual growth that be.

[Zephyrus055]

Yeah it happens to me a lot. A pattern starts where a new friend and I have a few months where we talk and engage in activities, but then we have nothing to say to each other for several months. There are exceptions, like my ENTP friend never gets boring. He's always got something new to share or explore. Like today on the phone he was cracking out the funniest come backs to tell off my SJ parents, hahaha.

[Faust06]

Friendship is important, but you need a medium if you want it to be worthwhile.. something like work, music, etc. I can't just spend time with someone doing virtually nothing and talking about random bullshit. This is even more true with introverted friends.

[Kathara]

My ex best friend is an INTP. We got along nicely, but we also sank into P laziness (case in point - she bought a PC last year and she hasn't installed it yet). I am struggling to be more J cause it would be nice to actually apply some of the things I have thought about. To get back to the question, we spent too much time together (5 years, almost daily for 6-8 hours a day), and surpisingly we did not get bored of each other. We skipped school, and went to parks and discussed various stuff instead.

That only happened because we were in the same stage in life. After uni, we took separate paths in life, aka I found a job, while she had other means of financing. She wanted us to keep on seeing each other like during our school days, and that was too much for me.

That, and other things, made us part our ways.

I also have some NF friends, but we see each other once or twice a week, so I am not bored with them. Yet.

[Ferrus]

Never had many in the proper sense really.

It have realised that, at least for a little while, some extroverted nonsense, exuberance, the partying and so forth does actually do me a world of good. Makes my mind and the world seem a little less repressive. This Saturday I shall be meeting my old school mates for the first time since the beginning Easter break last year - nigh on 10 months ago. I have had no proper social interaction with a significant group of people in a bar, except some German people at the start of this term very, very briefly. It is... frustrating, in the extreme. So yes, I have never done what is standard and fun for those my age, never been to a house party - except one very large one from which I was kicked out - never had proper drunken capers except by myself, never smoked weed, etc. etc. etc. A group of useless bastards as housemates has not aided that either, especially after they 'gave-up' on me.

I've noticed, even the most geeky of people here have had some degree of this, even in their school/university days. Why am I so universally spurned for this social matters? Is it my underlying 'weirdness' (drawn from a series of issues)?

Eh, this utter isolation makes the other pesky, mundane, frustrating aspects of life harder to keep on top of. Perhaps. persevere they say.

Fine, whatever, my life sucks.

End.

[Kathara]

Ferrus, try to use tri(or less)syllabic words. That should improve your social life

[Ferrus]

Ferrus, try to use tri(or less)syllabic words. That should improve your social life
In real life I don't except in specific situations (such as seminar) where I am trying to establish faux-intellectual superiority. For laughs.

No - I think actually it has something to do with being eccentric-but-establishment (a fitting epithet to Boris Johnson), and with poor body language. But at the same time not having the confidence or security in myself to just go with it anyway. Ho hum.

[Kathara]

In real life I don't except in specific situations (such as seminar) where I am trying to establish faux-intellectual superiority. For laughs.

No - I think actually it has something to do with being eccentric-but-establishment (a fitting epithet to Boris Johnson), and with poor body language. But at the same time not having the confidence or security in myself to just go with it anyway. Ho hum.

Bugger, that was the only piece of advice I could think of!:whistle:

[rainfall]

Do you ever get bored with them? My friend made a good point when he said once you have analyzed someone enough, there isn't much new to be offered there. I think he is also an INTP and would rather talk to strangers for the sake of fresh perspective then people he already knows. I can't help but agree. What do you think?

I never had friends. I sometimes wonder what's it like.