Are you comfortable here?

[xNTP]

Are you comfortable at this site?
Do you feel like people know the real you?
What parts do they know, what parts are still hidden?

If you are mostly comfortable:
When did you get comfortable?
How did you get comfortable? (what process, what happened)

If you're mostly uncomfortable:
Do you think you'll ever settle in?
What holds you back?
Do you have friends who know who you are?

[xNTP]

Are you comfortable at this site?
Do you feel like people know the real you?
What parts do they know, what parts are still hidden?

My comfort level at this site ebbs and flows, but I mostly feel engaged. I don't hold back too many opinions where I have them. I don't mind embarrassing myself sometimes, and I don't really try to be anyone specific. There are definitely people here who I would say I feel close to, even though sometimes I feel pretty isolated.


If you are mostly comfortable:
When did you get comfortable?
How did you get comfortable? (what process, what happened)


This is the main reason I started this thread, based on mgb's n00b thread. I can distinctly remember what happened when I started getting comfortable here. I was kinda worried for a while about slipping up and not being traditionally INTP. (Thank you, Hustler.) But I eventually just said fuck it and decided to dork-out and be silly, even if it meant losing whatever image I was working on. Having a blog probably helped, although it got a little serious over time. Maybe that's just me not having to feel like an entertainer, or maybe it's me feeling pressure to maintain the entertainer-persona. I'm not sure.

Either way, I'm wondering if the same process that ushers in intimacy between online forum posters works in the real world, namely: surrendering control and accepting one's self, even/especially where it conflicts with the persona one is wearing. In other words, shaking off the pressure to keep wearing one's social mask.

[Anonymous]

Are you comfortable at this site?
Do you feel like people know the real you?
What parts do they know, what parts are still hidden?


Mostly comfortable. A few people know the "real me", not many, but enough to make me feel comfortable.



If you are mostly comfortable:
When did you get comfortable?
How did you get comfortable? (what process, what happened)


I got more comfortable when I became familiar with the culture. I think this was sometime late last summer when I started posting and reading more of what was posted more. Then I got to know a few people more personally, which made me feel more at home in the forum.

[xNTP]

Mostly comfortable. A few people know the "real me", not many, but enough to make me feel comfortable.



I got more comfortable when I became familiar with the culture. I think this was sometime late last summer when I started posting and reading more of what was posted more. Then I got to know a few people more personally, which made me feel more at home in the forum.

You can definitely see a change in your posting confidence and just general presence on a thread. Seems like you came out of your shell.

[Anonymous]

You can definitely see a change in your posting confidence and just general presence on a thread. Seems like you came out of your shell.

I'm curious, when did you notice the change? I know that I've been more open, but I'm just not sure at what time it happened.

Also, it might relate in part to maturing.

[xNTP]

I'm curious, when did you notice the change? I know that I've been more open, but I'm just not sure at what time it happened.

Also, it might relate in part to maturing.

Within the past month, although it's probably been brewing for a while. I've noticed a lot less self-deprecation and more active participation without regard to how your posts are received.

[Titania]

Comes and goes.

If you are mostly comfortable:
When did you get comfortable?
How did you get comfortable? (what process, what happened)Walked in like I owned the place a while back. For the most part, people I like like me.
If you're mostly uncomfortable:
Do you think you'll ever settle in?
What holds you back?
Do you have friends who know who you are?Not really fully. I'm an enneagram 4, man. I believe with all my heart I'm a little inscrutable, and I like that there are people who don't get it.


It's my policy to never get comfortable anywhere. I've changed huge amounts even in the last year, I've always relied on my ability to find problems in myself and root them out, and it's based entirely on my ability to be extremely uncomfortable, and move on to bigger things once I've adapted.

Edit: Kind of like the Hulk.

[The Concertinist]

If you're mostly uncomfortable:
Do you think you'll ever settle in? I haven't yet, so I doubt I will.

What holds you back? There's just not much I feel like talking about here.

Do you have friends who know who you are? On here, or in general? On here, definitely not. In general...no, probably not.

[Rhu]

My level of comfort is inversely proportional to the overall comfort level of the user base.

Given that most everyone so far has self-identified as 'mostly comfortable', it appears that I have my work cut out for me.

[SensEye]

Damn, I voted middle so now I have to answer all the questions.

If you are mostly comfortable:
When did you get comfortable? I was more comfortable in the early days. Simply because the place was smaller more people knew me. My sense of humor worked much better back then. Now I am mainly ignored (and probably creep a few people out).


If you're mostly uncomfortable:
Do you think you'll ever settle in?No more than now.
What holds you back?Not sure. Demographics maybe.
Do you have friends who know who you are? Here? No.

[venerationOFrabbits]

Back in 2006 I thought about whether my aim would be to make others like me here. I decided against it. For one, it takes a lot of energy to do that and I knew I'd benefit more by taking the alternative route. (I gleaned from the decision.) So, sorry about that.

Tangent thought - The experience did make me appreciate the value of sociability. The key is admitting I really don't like most people, and to maintain a friendly, but comfortable distance. irl

[s0978]

Are you comfortable at this site?
Do you feel like people know the real you?
What parts do they know, what parts are still hidden?


Aren't you making a presumption that being comfortable on this site is predicated by being super personal in what is essentially an extremely public format?


silly extrovert.

[bclark619g]

Aren't you making a presumption that being comfortable on this site is predicated by being super personal in what is essentially an extremely public format?


silly extrovert.


ZING!

:highfive:

[digesthisickness]

Aren't you making a presumption that being comfortable on this site is predicated by being super personal in what is essentially an extremely public format?


silly extrovert.

HEY!!

i was thinking the same thing, so i doubt it's the extroversion.

[xNTP]

Aren't you making a presumption that being comfortable on this site is predicated by being super personal in what is essentially an extremely public format?


silly extrovert.

Hm... I was assuming that being comfortable is permission to be who you are. If you happen to be very private or quiet, or whatever, then I guess that's the person you share with others. Being personal doesn't mean you share everything about yourself, but rather that you share yourself, even if you're a very private and quiet person.

crazy introvert.

[Madrigal]

You guys can't make me uncomfortable.

[xNTP]

It's my policy to never get comfortable anywhere. I've changed huge amounts even in the last year, I've always relied on my ability to find problems in myself and root them out, and it's based entirely on my ability to be extremely uncomfortable, and move on to bigger things once I've adapted.

But isn't the reason you find problems and root them out simply to get more comfortable, overall?

FWIW, I find the tension between self-improvement and relaxation/acceptance to be fascinating.


Edit: Kind of like the Hulk.

:happpy:

[MacGuffin]

I am MacGuffin.

*removes pants*

[Madrigal]

I am MacGuffin.

*removes pants*

Mac's taking his pants off on poll option number one! *screams*

[MacGuffin]

Mac's taking his pants off on poll option number one! *screams*
Pants are uncomfortable.

They should be removed as often as possible.

[Delilah]

Are you comfortable at this site? I voted Mostly as opposed to completely because I am not sure I feel completely comfortable anywhere there are people.

Do you feel like people know the real you? Mostly, and for that I apologize to you all (without any sincerity)

What parts do they know, what parts are still hidden? Quite a bit more than most people in my real life, but still only the tip of the iceberg

If you are mostly comfortable:
When did you get comfortable? Fairly quickly, within a month I would say, I have been on many forums and with this one I made more of an effort to open up and enjoy myself rather than be difficult (which I have done in other places)

How did you get comfortable? (what process, what happened) Honestly out of personal desperation and in search of a change in my life and myself, I was, and am at a point when I think it is in my best interest to take care of my needs for a change and I think one of them is finding some way to really communicate parts of myself with actual people, so I figure starting with invisible and / or imaginary people like you was a good logical start. In addition, I no longer give a shit what people think of me and I figured if I got to be too much of an annoyance I would get banned and move on to annoy others. Which still could happen so don't give up hope Delilah haters!

[tinribz]

The more time I spend here the less I think I'm INTP. In fact I almost certain I'm not. Bye.

[digesthisickness]

i checked 'completely comfortable' not because i'd be comfortable with spilling my guts about anything to any one on this site, but because i'm completely at ease in the fact that it's not necessary here in order to feel comfortable.

[xNTP]

The more time I spend here the less I think I'm INTP. In fact I almost certain I'm not. Bye.

Is that a farewell post?

If you're not sure about your type, I recommend going over to MBTIc. There's less competition over there and it naturally brings out your dominant functions (which you may otherwise hide in a place like this that's swarming with sharks).

[digesthisickness]

geez, edahn, maybe it's not the 'sharks' that have him doubting.

[amazingkae]

I know I am more comfortable using the block feature to overcome any nonsense here... and for the most part I am happy to report I've enjoyed my time here (this is the only interactive forum of this nature I write on regularly). Sometimes the topics get tedious and the negative personnas of people get a little immense (egos tend to be a bit over the top at times)... that crap I could happily do without.

Finding new readers here that are great keeps me coming back. The GOOD
n00bs. Then there are the oldies but goodies here, too...

As a middie, I'm caught between that spot of feeling accepted and rejected simultaneously. However, like relatives that make you comfortable or uncomfortable when you go to visit them, I like conversations with some people better than others and find myself more relaxed in certain INTPc household rooms.

It all depends on the tone of the threads, the tenor, and my mood.

[outmywindow]

I'd say I was pretty comfortable here off the bat, mostly because I was living in the most uncomfortable and horrendous roommate situation I've ever dealt with by a long shot. Basically, any place made me feel more comfortable than meatspace. INTPc, you became my surrogate. I love you, surrogate.

That said, I'm not comfortable enough at INTPc to take a crap here; I still feel the need to wait until I get home to my own bathroom. I dunno, maybe its your weird toilet paper or something.

[xNTP]

geez, edahn, maybe it's not the 'sharks' that have him doubting.

Maybe, but I only raised it as a possibility, anyway.

There's also the problem of contrast. When you come onto a site like this, you find people who are SUPER-Ts and SUPER-Ns (and Is and Ps) and begin to doubt yourself. When you get a better population sample, you recalibrate in a surprising way. There were a lot of people on this site who I thought were sensors or Fs; compared to the rest of the site, they might be, but compared to a wider sample, they're definitely not.

[digesthisickness]

Maybe, but I only raised it as a possibility, anyway.

i got what you were doing. what i was doing was pointing out that there is another possibility. one that isn't so much like one that would come to your mind first.


There's also the problem of contrast. When you come onto a site like this, you find people who are SUPER-Ts and SUPER-Ns (and Is and Ps) and begin to doubt yourself. When you get a better population sample, you recalibrate in a surprising way. There were a lot of people on this site who I thought were sensors or Fs; compared to the rest of the site, they might be, but compared to a wider sample, they're definitely not.

i know this too. i also know that another problem is people mis-typing themselves altogether, and then other people comparing themselves to the ones who are mistaken.

[LastRailway]

I voted middle.
I am generally comfortable here, however I am not really willing to let out too much of the "real me", not because of this forum, but cause it's something I cautiously avoid in all aspects of my life.
Also this site is growing very quickly and sometimes I am overwhelmed with the number of members I don't recognise, which affects my comfort level.

[Hustler]

To me, INTPc is like a cozy mink rug, where I can come walk all over it and even wiggle my toes from time to time.

[Twitch]

I'm comfortable with lurking the majority of the time, and I neither seek nor shrink from recognition, however in the spirit of the question as I believe it was intended, I'd be remiss to claim a general level of comfort with actual posting.

If you're mostly uncomfortable:

What holds you back?
Typically, my dislike of repeating something that's already been said and starting every post with an (either real or implied) "I agree with. . ." or it's obvious alternative of spamming one liners that usually add up to slightly more than nothing.

Do you have friends who know who you are?
A few.

[xNTP]

What holds you back?
Typically, my dislike of repeating something that's already been said and starting every post with an (either real or implied) "I agree with. . ." or it's obvious alternative of spamming one liners that usually add up to slightly more than nothing.

Interesting.

[Chaselation]

Are you comfortable at this site? My comfort level largely ebbs an flows with my real life comfort level. With the mean gradually increasing. I think my inhibitions have stemmed from the posters I most valued are more well spoken and educated then myself. As a result by not articulating my thoughts properly I risk misrepresenting myself. The more I post the more I have been able to properly convey my thoughts so at the very least if I sound foolish it's on my own terms.

Do you feel like people know the real you? Not even close. One that did no longer frequents here.
What parts do they know, what parts are still hidden? Most everything that would be understood as me IRL.

[starla]

Are you comfortable at this site?
Somewhat. Voted in the middle. I leave a lot of thoughts unposted. I'm kind of surprised I'm not more comfortable, considering I've been here over a year, and met some forum members in person. But it takes me a long time to come out of my shell. And I'm horrible at connecting with people. I haven't made friends here like most people seem to have done.


Do you feel like people know the real you?
Probably more than most people, but no. There are only a handful of people who know the real me. Seven that I can think of.


What parts do they know, what parts are still hidden?
I'm not tellin'!

[Titania]

But isn't the reason you find problems and root them out simply to get more comfortable, overall?

FWIW, I find the tension between self-improvement and relaxation/acceptance to be fascinating.It's obviously not, or else I wouldn't move on the moment I became comfortable.

I pretty much turned 18 with no life skills or experience and really behind when it came to really basic shit, and slipping into feeling comfortable like that got me into really very serious trouble. I'd be barefoot and pregnant and being beaten by some meathead somewhere if I'd let myself stay comfortable as I was.

And it's served me pretty well, I think. Given me some drive and some ability to make decisions, to learn how to present myself and sell myself.

[s0978]

Honestly right now I am super uncomfortable because the left click on my mouse is fucked up and I need a new one, and alsothe space bar on my laptop has been sort of unresponsive for awhile.

[Rincon]

If you are mostly comfortable:
When did you get comfortable?
How did you get comfortable? (what process, what happened)


I lurked for several months before I started posting, and by that point I was well on my way to 'mostly comfortable'. IMO if you just spend some time reading and absorbing the daily activity here (and especially if you're an N :grin:), you'll simply understand that:

- others will disagree with you no matter how smart you think you are or how many AP classes you took in high school
- the hawt INTP women are never going to sleep with you (but you'll learn a lot about menstruation)
- Making aloof, robotic and apathetic posts will gain you, oh, maybe one or two sympathy points, and probably nobody will call you an SJ, but not much more.
- It doesn't matter what Hustler thinks about you, unless you think it does, in which case you're fucked, sorry about that.
- The chat thread is more or less hated on here, don't bother.
- Watch out for the infamous "postwhore/circle-jerk" threads. Everybody, including the admins and old-timers, has participated in one at some point but nobody will admit to it, and the latest example will always get flamed.
- It's an I-n-t-e-r-n-e-t F-o-r-u-m...

[MadamI'madaM]

I learned to be mostly comfortable here after I realized I didn't have to answer every ridiculous multi part question piecemeal with bold text.


...and after I realized that we're all just people with lots of free time who keep gravitating to the same url about borderline pseudoscience. Some people just happen to be funnier than others.

[bluebell]

Are you comfortable at this site?

I voted mostly comfortable. The mostly as opposed to completely is probably entirely due to my own insecurities and is probably nothing to do with the forum itself.

Do you feel like people know the real you?

Hmm. A few do, but only the ones I've interacted with quite a bit off the forum, rather than just in threads and PMs.

I like that I only have to vaguely hint at things for people to get it, rather than having to spell stuff out.

What parts do they know, what parts are still hidden?

My inner geek comes out to play here a hellava lot more than IRL. On the actual forum, I keep large chunks hidden, but a handful of people have seen quite a bit.

If you are mostly comfortable:
When did you get comfortable?

I was comfortable posting from the start but only started to feel comfortable/relaxed on here at a deeper level a few months after I joined.

How did you get comfortable? (what process, what happened)

When I started to get to know some people and made a few good friends. Part of that was by accident, part of it was other people reaching out and part of it was me making the effort. Or something.

[BrianBear]

If you are mostly comfortable:
When did you get comfortable?
How did you get comfortable? (what process, what happened)

I felt comfortable right from my first post. A forum full of intelligent, witty and respectful individuals...It was like finding a long lost internet home.:grin:

[Helios]

Are you comfortable at this site?
Do you feel like people know the real you?
What parts do they know, what parts are still hidden?

If you are mostly comfortable:
When did you get comfortable?
How did you get comfortable? (what process, what happened)

If you're mostly uncomfortable:
Do you think you'll ever settle in?
What holds you back?
Do you have friends who know who you are?


Yes, cause I am 'old' here and don't care what 95% of the people here think anyway


Few here know me, if only casue I joined at such an unsettled point in my life. I created a persona, that overly reflects that stage.


Question 3 is too laborious for my current mood.


Naw, from my out-dated POV this site is not unlike Rome circa 500 AD. It will never be home like it was, and that is ok. It is home from others now. I can however move about with ease and visit the ruins that are meaningful to me.


Friends? Here or IRL? Frankly no one really knows me, anywhere. But the degrees vary. Can anyone external ever 'know' an introvert?

[skip]

Mostly comfortable because I don't take internet forums seriously enough for them to cause discomfort but I do wish there were more people my age here.

[panda]

Very much the same as Helios. In fact, I could have said exactly the same.

Also, from the beginning, I chose to interact here on a superficial and playful level, and, indeed, have always seen my role here as that of a benevolent troll.

While I think I will always drop by from time to time, I will soon cease to be a regular member.

[xNTP]

Friends? Here or IRL? Frankly no one really knows me, anywhere. But the degrees vary. Can anyone external ever 'know' an introvert?

I think so, but it takes another "IN" to do it. Which leads to my next question:


Few here know me, if only casue I joined at such an unsettled point in my life. I created a persona, that overly reflects that stage.

How would you describe that persona? Sexually charged? Vulnerable? I mostly see depth and turmoil. Persona or "real" you? To some degree, your persona is the real you, but I guess people have to see that clearly.

[Jennywocky]

Mac's taking his pants off on poll option number one! *screams*

Okay, NOW I'm uncomfortable. :D


Are you comfortable at this site?
Yes, pretty much. Sometimes I still feel a little pressure to have to impress someone's intellect, but in general I just am 'me' now. Giddy, stupid, intellectual, whimsical, unintelligible.... who cares? It's my life.

Do you feel like people know the real you?
Yes. Especially now.

What parts do they know, what parts are still hidden?
Most of my dirty laundry has been hung out to dry. I started that a year ago. I've spent the last year working through what that means for my life and getting to know myself again, rather than just mirroring what others around me were expecting. I can't really say I am hiding much at all anymore.

I probably still am a little too diplomatic than I actually feel at moments, but it's only because ultimately I care about keeping the communication lines open.

When did you get comfortable?
A decent level of connection early on.
I reached another level after I dumped in the Fuckup thread last year, + survived the anti-NF shitstorm.

How did you get comfortable? (what process, what happened)
Basically, one of two ways:
- I either stopped hiding my secrets and just threw them out there for everyone to see and react to.
- I took a lot of shit for standing up for things I realized I believed in... and I survived.

Really -- fear of disclosure is partly a fear of death (i.e., of being shut out, death of communication and relationship). If you risk death (maybe even dying!) enough, and find out that you can survive it (get that?).... then the fear reduces quite a bit. Death is painful... but it won't kill me. I am just transformed, not killed.

[s0978]

While I think I will always drop by from time to time, I will soon cease to be a regular member.

:mellow:

[Oso Mocoso]

Are you comfortable at this site?

Yeah, for the most part.


Do you feel like people know the real you?

Umm ... maybe some of them.


What parts do they know, what parts are still hidden?

There are probably only a few parts of me that remain completely hidden to all members. If you must know specific embarrassing details, maybe ask Delilah. She's seen me at my online worst.


If you are mostly comfortable
When did you get comfortable?
How did you get comfortable? (what process, what happened)

I was uncomfortable in my introduction thread. Methofelis fucking treed me, and if we're being totally honest here, I'm still not completely over that.

Over 2000 posts later, it still hurts. :mad:


Do you have friends who know who you are?

Wait ... do I? I'm not sure. Probably. Kinda. Maybe. A few?

[YardGnome]

Sometimes I'm not even sure I know my own ego let alone others... Then again my girlfriend can read me like a fucking book, I believe she as well as manywomen must have some sort of psychic ability to read a mans mind...

[camille]

Are you comfortable at this site?
Yes.

Do you feel like people know the real you?
Yes.

What parts do they know, what parts are still hidden?
My exact address is the only thing still hidden, I believe.

If you are mostly comfortable, when did you get comfortable?
When I began my blog.

How did you get comfortable? (what process, what happened)
Writing about the parts of my life I hadn't shared with too many others.

Friends on another forum created an atmosphere that was very comfortable, enough so that I told parts of my life I had been ashamed of over the years. It was easily transferred to here when I had private conversations with two or three members. From there, it went into my blog.

Maybe it's having the space I needed, and not being well-known on the forum that led me to start a blog I knew not many would read. Talking to myself, I guess.

There are people here with whom I've spoken on the phone. Several people know my real name and a couple have my address.

[MacGuffin]

This place is as comfortable as a warm bath I just peed in.

[Uberfuhrer]

ENFJ administrators scare me and make me feel very uncomfortable...

[Delilah]

ENFJ administrators scare me and make me feel very uncomfortable...

I second that. This place is tainted now and I must take my leave of it. :ph34r:

[mgb]

I second that. This place is tainted now and I must take my leave of it. :ph34r:

Pfft, extroverts. Let him keep thinking he's the only one that peed in the tub.

[Delilah]

Pfft, extroverts. Let him keep thinking he's the only one that peed in the tub.

You knew that was me? :blush:

[Andantino]

Are you comfortable at this site?

Yes, for the most part.


Do you feel like people know the real you?

Depends on how much they read. I think it takes a lot of online interaction to break through initial perceptions. Therefore most people probably don't. There are a few that do. ;)


What parts do they know, what parts are still hidden?


The few that do know me know most of my thoughts and how my mind works. I still keep certain feelings well-hidden until a certain level of trust is established.



I am mostly comfortable.

When did you get comfortable?

I lurked for about a month and a half, or two... It took time and a lot of reading to realize that other types are (mostly) welcome.


How did you get comfortable? (what process, what happened)

I started posting, I guess. After some time passed and I wasn't completely ripped apart for being an ENTJ, I became more comfortable.


Good thread!

[Ptah]

Are you comfortable at this site?
Do you feel like people know the real you?
What parts do they know, what parts are still hidden?


I voted fully comfortable.

Do I feel like people know the real me? How am I to know, is my knee-jerk answer to the question; as for how I feel -- that is pretty pointless to either regard or discuss here, as in many other contexts. Do I care either way? Not in particular. Thus, I am fully comfortable. Of course, this all gets to a disambiguated definition of "comfort"... :think:



If you are mostly comfortable:
When did you get comfortable?
How did you get comfortable? (what process, what happened)


I started out mostly comfortable. Let's see: I'm at my desk using a computer; that's pretty damned comforting, while also merely comfortable, by default. Nothing has come along to make me uncomfortable "here", in general. I can only imagine a narrow band of things that would.

[iksikaksi]

I feel comfortable here because a) I cannot give a shit what you guys think of me for starters b) I like reading your discussions because they make me contemplate stuff I never thought of before which is a lot of fun in and of itself.

People here do not know the real me. Partly because English is not my mother tongue so its harder for me to express myself clearly hence many people might misinterpret what I have written. Secondly, eventhough i've taken the official Myers Briggs exam and scored INTP I do not live the stereotypical INTP life. Im into sales and I interact with a lot of people on a daily basis. In a strange way I like going against my own nature and challenging myself that way. Deep down however I would like to go to acabin somewhere in the middle of the woods just to solve physics and math problems. Unfortunately I wasnt intellectually gifted which is extremely hard for an INTP to deal with. Once you say I suck with people and Im dumb what do you do with your life? In my case I have been obliged to open up to people and interact with them and by doing so I feel I have found my own value that of uncondicional love for my self and acceptance of others around me. So in a way my story is different. However now that Im into sales whenever a complicated introverted client comes around I am immediately signed up for the task because the more complicated and neurotic the person is the more they have a liking for me because my mannerism are uncomplicated, I get straight to the point and I have a very honest look in my face or so my boss says.

[C.J.Woolf]

This place is as comfortable as a warm bath I just peed in.
Looking at your post count, I'd say this bath is as much MacGuffin pee as water.


Pfft, extroverts. Let him keep thinking he's the only one that peed in the tub.
Hmm... looks like this warm bath is all pee.

[Seanan]

Are you comfortable at this site?

Sometimes.

Do you feel like people know the real you?

Hardly.


What parts do they know, what parts are still hidden?

Well, that would be telling. :grin:


If you're mostly uncomfortable:
Do you think you'll ever settle in?

I hope not.

What holds you back?

My own standards.

Do you have friends who know who you are?

Yes.

[outmywindow]

I'm infinitely more comfortable here now that there are so many goats roaming about.

[Oso Mocoso]

I'm infinitely more comfortable here now that there are so many goats roaming about.

Are you really comfortable here, or are you just drunk with power because some of the goats were burned before Wotan in your name?

[Helios]

Is edit just gone now? For once I am here and vaguely lucid and I can't even clean up my past typos!


WTF!







how useless, I can edit this...........so the damn thing is on an egg timer now? Fucking brilliant



Well while I am here, lets employ this fleeting edit thing again and reply!!



I think so, but it takes another "IN" to do it. Which leads to my next question:



How would you describe that persona? Sexually charged? Vulnerable? I mostly see depth and turmoil. Persona or "real" you? To some degree, your persona is the real you, but I guess people have to see that clearly.


Shhhh! I didn't say I wanted people to see thru the persona, only that it wasn't real.:ph34r:


PS-and yes you are dead-on. I can always tell other I-N- in real life, they see right thru my otherwise flawless facade. But as unsettling as that could be, it tends to be worth it. That discovery of like minded folk, is priceless. (cause you can buy any SJ with Mastercard)

[Tlalocone]

....and I am still alive....:happpy:

[Park]

I don't allways think this is a comfortable place to be but I'm comfortable here - it feels homely.

[panda]

....and I am still alive....:happpy:
:highfive:

Also, nice post, iksikaksi.

[xNTP]

Is edit just gone now? For once I am here and vaguely lucid and I can't even clean up my past typos!


WTF!

LOL, this is like the drunk guy waking up and finding "PENIS" written on his face.


Shhhh! I didn't say I wanted people to see thru the persona, only that it wasn't real.:ph34r:


Sorry, sorry.


(cause you can buy any SJ with Mastercard)

8O

*fumbles around for credit card*

[Uberfuhrer]

ENFJ administrators scare me and make me feel very uncomfortable...

ENFJ administrators administrating an INTP forum make me feel even more uncomfortable.

[Katzchen]

Are you comfortable at this site?
Do you feel like people know the real you?
What parts do they know, what parts are still hidden?

I voted mostly uncomfortable. Reasons: Generally my own fault. I'm still young and not even sure of who I am so I tend not to post much, despite being here for so long. As a result, people don't know me and I get the feeling that I'm mostly ignored. Also, like some other members, I get the feeling that I'm not very stereotypically INTP and thus am unsure how to act. :p

I'm not sure if I'll ever settle in. Part of me hopes so, but another part of me doesn't want to get too comfortable. It would be nice to make friends though, and thinking back on it, I think I joined in hopes of meeting maybe a handful of INTPs I felt I really connected with, just because good close friends are hard to come by, and I know hardly any INTPs in real life. I started a blog which should have helped, except that I almost never post in it. heh...

[Linkage]

I voted mostly uncomfortable. Reasons: Generally my own fault. I'm still young and not even sure of who I am so I tend not to post much, despite being here for so long. As a result, people don't know me and I get the feeling that I'm mostly ignored. Also, like some other members, I get the feeling that I'm not very stereotypically INTP and thus am unsure how to act. :p

I'm not sure if I'll ever settle in. Part of me hopes so, but another part of me doesn't want to get too comfortable. It would be nice to make friends though, and thinking back on it, I think I joined in hopes of meeting maybe a handful of INTPs I felt I really connected with, just because good close friends are hard to come by, and I know hardly any INTPs in real life. I started a blog which should have helped, except that I almost never post in it. heh...

I find the best way for me to connect at the start is to share thoughts where I can - if you put your 2pence in on what interests you I'm sure people will get to know you better (or at least get a better impression of 'you' on the forum). And of course like everything it'll just be a matter of time :highfive:

Also, have you got a link to your blog? :happpy:

[Jen]

If you're mostly uncomfortable:
Do you think you'll ever settle in? No
What holds you back? The dislike for non INTP's
Do you have friends who know who you are? Yes

[Katzchen]

I find the best way for me to connect at the start is to share thoughts where I can - if you put your 2pence in on what interests you I'm sure people will get to know you better (or at least get a better impression of 'you' on the forum). And of course like everything it'll just be a matter of time :highfive:

Thank you. :)


Also, have you got a link to your blog? :happpy:

Um, maybe when I write something less depressing.

[sriv]

I am completely uncomfortable here. That's why I keep coming back. :)

[Nighthawk]

Are you comfortable at this site?
Mostly Comfortable.

Do you feel like people know the real you?
Not completely ... but better than most people know me IRL, except for the few closest to me.

What parts do they know, what parts are still hidden?
I could go on forever about this one. There are so many parts ... millions of them ... far too many to enumerate. Suffice it to say, there are some dark parts that nobody will ever see.

If you are mostly comfortable:
When did you get comfortable?
After about a year.

How did you get comfortable? (what process, what happened)
I got to know some of the people on the forum ... some IRL. Discerning the pattern of how things occur here and the various dynamics helped a lot too.

[HtwoO]

Are you comfortable at this site? No
Do you feel like people know the real you? No
What parts do they know, what parts are still hidden? They know nothing about me. :highfive: Except for my quiz results.

Matter of Personal preference.
The vibe of this forum seems business-like, an office meeting in every thread, with some casual conversations now and then. It reminds me of reality. I like it, but not necessarily comfortable.

I tend to be more comfortable in warm social settings, and where I can share my personal problems without getting attached to the individuals.

My objective for the internet is to share my problems, my thoughts, procrastinate, and never see those individuals that helped me on the internet again.

[MacGuffin]

My objective for the internet is to share my problems, my thoughts, procrastinate, and never see those individuals that helped me on the internet again.

Then be assured, I probably will never help you, unless you annoy me.

[earwax]

Mostly comfortable.

No one here knows the real me. Only a small handfull in real life know the real me - the dark and the light.

But's that's OK - I don't come here for understanding or soul baring. Due to a speech impediment I find conversation rather difficult in the real world. I find intelligent conversation even harder to come by.

[kuraiken]

Mostly comfortable...great way to escape reality and procrastinate..