Why do Mommy and Daddy have to fight?

[Works]

After watching some of the fights on the message board, it reminded of watching my own parents argue and fight. Sometimes it was uncomfortable because they seemed to have forgotten that there were other people in the room, but most of the time I just went to my bedroom and shut the door.

Anyway, when two or more posters who you tend to like get into forum flame war, what's your first reaction? Take a side? Take the sideline? Fan the flames?

I tend to just stay out of their way and watch the chaos unfold, but I tend to do that for most of the forum fights.

[garak]

I just find it amusing, although I can't think of any specific times it's happened. Most of the people I overtly *like* here don't seem to fight with other people.

[zero]

damn...i never know what to do....if i join in i'm soiled...and those who try to honestly help "get what they deserve"...what I really want to say is shut the fuck up already...but in the long run nothing works...especially with the overly aggressive kind of posters who think it's their duty to be a lesser version of a mod and issue their own brand of backward justice...anyhow...i just shut up and wait for posts like this so i can be passive aggressive:p

[starla]

All the fighting lately has been annoying. I prefer to stay out of the way as well. I usually hope that they'll get over whatever disagreements they're having, but when they start making personal attacks on each other, it's kind of sad. I lose a little respect for one or both posters.

[A Schnitzel]

I never signed up for the drama, so I tend to avoid it.
If someone challenges me I usually back down. It tends to make them look more like a fool if they get no reaction. In the end there's not much point to it.

The only time I fan the flames is when they are arguing over something completely ridiculous and they're not being hostile. If I find it amusing I keep the argument alive by making a humorous side comment.

[zero]

you know what's really fucking annoying?...when they sit and argue for like 2+ hours and then say something like...it's just a forum don't take it so seriously..that's like a slap in the face...all of a sudden you want to look good because it's cool not to care...or the lame ass retorts that amount to nothing more than "well that doesn't work to hurt me...try harder"...lame and cliched ....also the real lamerz love to talk about how they've been here first and are so respected...give me a break....

...damn that oddly felt good...if i smoked i'd grab for a cig right now...

[Anonymous]

I can't recall when this has happened here, but I know how I react to this situation in general. I just try to stay out of it as much as possible.

[helium]

....also the real lamerz love to talk about how they've been here first and are so respected...give me a break....


It was that way back on the INTP listserv, when I was there, 97-01. I'm sure nothing was different before I had joined either. I had one of the lowest post counts there too, for one of the longest standing members. I enjoy a handful of people and conversations. The rest is nonsense. Same shit; different day. You can say "been there, done that" once you've "been there, done that."

[rainfall]

Why do Mommy and Daddy have to fight? Why does Mommy always nag daddy? She nags and nags and then Daddy hits her in the mouth and he shouts so loud! How come Mommy never remembers that? Does she want to get punched in the mouth? Does she want daddy to throw furniture around? Surely it is better when he just watches TV and drinks his beer. Why after dad beats mom they lock themselves in their bedroom and make funny noises? Why does mommy come out happy afterwards even though she has a blue eye or a bruise? Life is so hard to understand when I'm so young. I can't seem to figure this out... so I guess I'll go back to wanking to daddy's shiesse porn.

[eyebyte_atWork]

Moms and Dads fight because they hate what they could become if things keep going the way things are. They fight for a sense of independence.

People on here fight because they have un-resolved issues with their parents. Same sense they are fighting for.

It's understandable.

[sandwich]

It may be that I'm fairly unobservant, but I haven't noticed a rise in arguing. It's always there, and I tend to avoid it.

Maybe you're talking about the God threads? I don't read those. At least not anymore.

[somnium]

It was that way back on the INTP listserv, when I was there, 97-01. I'm sure nothing was different before I had joined either.

It was. I left in '96 because it was getting too ... well, too like this forum, I'm afraid.

Edit: I mean, it was different.

[Madrigal]

After watching some of the fights on the message board,
Ahh, I'm out of the loop, didn't even notice!


Anyway, when two or more posters who you tend to like get into forum flame war, what's your first reaction? Take a side? Take the sideline? Fan the flames?
I'd participate if:

-I want to make a point
-I'm bored
-I'm pissed

[walfin]

-I want to make a point
-I'm bored
-I'm pissed
I believe these are the reasons why people start fights as well.

[SensEye]

Haven't really noticed anything, except maybe mgb trying to fill the void left by Hustler a bit. This is nothing new for mgb, he did this back in pre-Hustler days too.

Not to worry, in time he'll add a few dozen more members to his ignore list and things will quiet down.

[Nighthawk]

I usually try to avoid it as well. I get enough drama in real life without also seeking it online. If it pushes one of my hot buttons (*cough* military or job dissatisfaction *cough*), I might jump in for a bit.

[Ptah]

I like to argue/debate, not fight (flame war, etc here --- and/or direct, emotion-driven conflicts IRL). I'll jump into/start a debate if I think I've got points to make, but steer clear of a true "fight", if I can.

[C.J.Woolf]

I'd participate if:

-I want to make a point
-I'm bored
-I'm pissed
Pissed in the British sense (drunk), the American sense (angry), or both?

I prefer those who are bored (or Brit-pissed) and funny.

[zago]

I like to argue, and fighting is ok too. I have a real competitive streak. At least, I think some drama keeps things interesting. I've always enjoyed forums more when members tended to be unpredictable and brutal.

EDIT: I always mean what I say, but I guess at some point the argument turns into trying to destroy the other person completely. Apparently this is an INTP thing to do. Not that it's great.

[kendoiwan]

Win one battle and one is an emperor
Win two battles and one is a king
Win three battles and one is a general
Win four battles and one will be exhausted
Win five battles and one will be ruined.

[Works]

I like to argue, and fighting is ok too. I have a real competitive streak. At least, I think some drama keeps things interesting. I've always enjoyed forums more when members tended to be unpredictable and brutal.

EDIT: I always mean what I say, but I guess at some point the argument turns into trying to destroy the other person completely. Apparently this is an INTP thing to do. Not that it's great.

Destroy the other person completely? I hope I'm not that vindictive.

[mgb]

I beg to differ.

People here love the fighting. While there might be some exceptions...the numbers don't lie. During every flamewar I've ever seen or been involved in, I notice a significant jump in the number of people viewing that particular thread, like two to three times what there would normally be.

I mean, at any given time, there have to be forty or fifty threads up for discussion, but as soon as there is some conflict, people are all over it. And hey, that's totally fine, just don't pretend like you don't rubberneck when you see an accident on the road. And really...given the enormous volume of threads and posts here and the irregularity in which flamewars usually occur, it's only a distraction if you make it one. ;)

garak, dude, you were standing toe to toe with Zedo and I during the first battle with songbird. Everyone remembers the Zedo part, but we were all there. Don't play coy now. :grin:

I'm not saying it's for everyone, but for me, I enjoy blowing off some steam now and then. It's better here than in real life where the consequences are slightly...more real.

[Oso Mocoso]

I beg to differ.

People here love the fighting. <snip>

I'm not saying it's for everyone, but for me, I enjoy blowing off some steam now and then. It's better here than in real life where the consequences are slightly...more real.

Hells yes. A good healthy fight is great for the ratings. We should arrange one for during sweeps week.

Seriously, though. Sometimes the drama is just insipid bullshit, but when it comes to a good actual throw-down fight, then that's brilliant entertainment.

[zago]

Destroy the other person completely? I hope I'm not that vindictive.

I think it is more about winning, and winning hard. It's competition with an excuse, really.

[s0978]

Anyway, when two or more posters who you tend to like get into forum flame war, what's your first reaction? Take a side? Take the sideline? Fan the flames?


Depends on which posters in question, but I think generally I like to see Mommy pwn the shit out of Daddy. It's also fun when other family members nose in to have a go at Daddy and kick him in the shins here and there.

But only if and when the Mommy is articulate, on point, and talented in the art of flaming. And Daddy is not too much of an idiot either. Otherwise it's just lame and/ or mean.

[rhinosaur]

Maybe you're talking about the God threads? I don't read those. At least not anymore.

I can sum the most recent one up for you:

10
Atheist97057: [troll/flame/ad-hominem]
Saekelustra: [pretends she doesn't realize atheist is trolling]
Goto 10

[sandwich]

Word. I'm more concerned about why I can't feel my own lips. And everything keps moveing when i stop.

[rhinosaur]

You've either been poisoned, or you're drunk. Really the same thing, if you think about it.

[OrionzRevenge]

You've either been poisoned, or you're drunk. Really the same thing, if you think about it.

yeah, poor ole girl said she had a cultural exchange w/ a bottle of Sake last night. hope she is ok