Avoidant Personality Disorder

[Trolsk]

Removed.

[Birdsnest]

I liked that article.

[paladinoflunaria]

I don't have it, but the article is interesting. I don't care what people think about me, but I'm not going to sell out to get attention I don't really need anyway. I avoid most social situations because I loathe small talk, most talk anyway, stupid people (hard to find un-stupid ones), and other such shallow interactions.

I don't mind being alone, and most people don't mind me being alone (I might be wrong), so it works.

[Avengardh]

I don't mind being alone, and most people don't mind me being alone (I might be wrong), so it works.

See, this is the issue with me, I don't mind being alone, but almost every freaking other person minds that I am, what gives?

So in turn I end up avoiding any type of interesting conversation because it always ends up with the, why are you alone?-Question, and other deeper and judgemental-clones of it.

Frustrating.

~*Aven*~

[SensEye]

See, this is the issue with me, I don't mind being alone, but almost every freaking other person minds that I am, what gives?


I assume you live with a bunch of extraverts. They just don't get the whole "being alone is energizing" thing. Especially if they are SJ extraverts, who by nature expect everything done their way.

[Avengardh]

See, this is the issue with me, I don't mind being alone, but almost every freaking other person minds that I am, what gives?


I assume you live with a bunch of extraverts. They just don't get the whole "being alone is energizing" thing. Especially if they are SJ extraverts, who by nature expect everything done their way.

My parents are both ENTPs, my brother is an ISFJ.
It's not really just them though...it's also just strangers, it gets annoying.

[giftedmadness@hotmail.com]

I wish I knew what my brothers and parents were.

[Google Monster]

interesting... I can sort of relate to some of APD. better read more. :)

More of the APD style rather than the disorder after reading it.

[libertarianjim]

Good article, thanks for posting it.

[Sam172]

A good read on that webpage :)

[Tatsuboshi]

Hmmm... I think I might be borderline... something to consider, I guess. Thanks for the info.

[spirilis]

I'm more of the avoidant personality "style" by their metrics... I can't really say my avoidant properties are much of a deliberate revolt against attention-whoring, since I sometimes do attention-whore myself, but it's just an ingrown tendency, like something I keep defaulting to.

I was like this when I was very very young (~2-4 years old)--wouldn't go anywhere outside the designated areas my parents showed me, which was our property. It's not like my parents wouldn't allow me; I just never even considered doing it. I remember when we had new neighbors 2 doors over, and I heard them all running around in the properties nearby. I used to run up to the tree that bordered our property with our neighbors and watch them. One of them kept yelling for me to come over, but for about 1 week off-and-on I did this same thing--just stood at the tree and watched them for a while, then went back inside. Eventually one of them came over and talked to me, and walked me over there. It literally took that much effort to break me out of my self-mandated "shell" and to get me to begin to "make my own rules" about life, so to speak.

In many ways, unless I already have a route to a social situation by way of existing friends, I am that same way. I cannot self-initiate a bridging of the social gap between myself and someone I have no possible connection with. It's as if ALL social interaction must have some identifyable route linking me to the other person.

Now I've softened this up in a lot of ways... but that's still the underlying process which remains ingrained in my head.

[Boozer]

I have taken a couple of theese disorder quizzes and avoidant is always "very high" for me. So I think I'm in that boat. I'm actually a funny and talkative person, but only if I've met you before and we've had at least one signifigant (not chit-chat) conversation. Once I do that with someone I open up. But I am really horrible at "breaking the ice". In fact almost all of my few relationships stareted because the girl persued me. I really have to work on going out a little bit, but it just seems so phony to me, I'm not really much of a drinker, I suck at introductions, so I'm basically going out hoping to get picked up, which doesn't happen nearly enough to be worth the time :P

[s]

Damn, more personality disorders. I will read this article when ready.

[MacGuffin]

I'm not really much of a drinker

And yet your name is "Boozer". For shame....

[Boozer]

I'm not really much of a drinker

And yet your name is "Boozer". For shame....

Yeah it's actually a nickname I got in jr. high school. It's based on my last name. Here's a hint, I'm greek, so my last name is pretty messed up. :D

[heeroyuy]

My biggest thing is that I don't mind being alone at all. Alone but not lonely ;) No one really gets the fact that when I'm in a big crowd I usually feel so much more alone than at home with music and technology or a good book.

The worst thing is when people come up to me at school and try to treat me like 'pity case' and talk to me just because they think I don't like being alone.

With people I actually like and can talk to I'm actually quite social, but I don't get to spend much of my time with people like this, so oh well :)

Just my $0.02

[hollyholly]

Much information. Shall read now. Thanks!

[candela]

I read some stuff on schizoid personality disorder, which was briefly mentioned in there. That described me better than the avoidant one. Some of the avoidant stuff sounded like me, but the feeling inferior to others definitely doesn't describe me. I always just feel like everyone else is missing the point.


One of them kept yelling for me to come over, but for about 1 week off-and-on I did this same thing--just stood at the tree and watched them for a while, then went back inside.That made me kind of sad.