hotornot

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posted this pn another forum but figured I would post here as well.


most of my experiences of meeting chicks from the net have soured. After I've met some girls from the net it ends up in them no longer responding to IM's. ARGHHhhh Angst++
I am on hotornot and I paid for one month ($6) and so far it seems to have backfired. Even though most of my web-to-human experiences have backfired, I don't really have any other "outlet" for meeting females and since I spend so much time on the internet I try these stupidass webpersonal sites where girls signup and don't want to actually meet 51% of the time. afjjasdfj


come look at my horrible `matches'
http://meetme.hotornot.com/r/?mb=NQOLNZN&key=CPD

[jittus rye]

Hahahaha. Maybe we should vote on the best possible match. Hmm.

On another note, I find your personal description quite great.

[jimkopelli]

It could be worse... I didn't see any unibrow, and they all might have been under 300 lbs...

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set the drop down menu to 25 per page to see all of them.
this one definitely isn't my type:
http://pix2.hotornot.com/pics/HQ/KM/NR/KM/GQOQBUKEYQBD.jpg

[candela]

I LIKE

[Melody]

:-\ The most beautiful girl I have ever seen would probably be considered "dorky" by most people, but the way she carried herself...she was like a little kid in a big girl's body. I just wanted to hug the hell out of and have lots of sex with her.

[SensEye]

this one definitely isn't my type:


Err...wait a minute. Isn't the meaning of "double match" that you already said you where interested?

[paladinoflunaria]

Melody wrote:

I just wanted to hug the hell out of and have lots of sex with her.

:rofl: I've had the exact same experience before. It's great for the first instant... then it goes sour... then it sucks ass.

[jimkopelli]

Funny how that works.

[file cabinet]

this one definitely isn't my type:


Err...wait a minute. Isn't the meaning of "double match" that you already said you where interested?

actually.. what I do is just "yes" to everybody.. the process can be sped up by holding down "y" key on the keyboard. I figured I would get more matches that way... and.. if you hold down the "y" key you don't have to wait for the pictures to load before it starts loading the next potential match..

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[ohnoaninfp]

I really don't rely on those personal things. No one messages me. I am not trying to sound mean, but why don't you spend less time on the internet and go out and have some fun. There are girls every where, just look around. What kind of girl are you looking for anyway? If you are looking for a quiet girl who doesan't party, then go to a museum or a library. These personal things are crap, besides how can you trust someone if you don't see their face. I mean I could say I am a blond, blue eyed skinny girl with a huge rack, but I might be lying. I'd rather get to know someone in person. For instance I joined a club at my college and I met a guy, who I really like. So go out and do things, like joining clubs, karaoke, anything where there might be someone you might like.

[Melody]

But that requires a lot of extraversion. :(

[file cabinet]

I work non-stop... these webpersonal things.. I just do them because it's easier for me.. no time to meet people






I really don't rely on those personal things. No one messages me.
you need to message other people. otherwise you're just a needle in a haystack..

I am not trying to sound mean, but why don't you spend less time on the internet and go out and have some fun.
I have fun at work.. but there aren't girls that work here. oh well.

There are girls every where, just look around. What kind of girl are you looking for anyway? If you are looking for a quiet girl who doesan't party, then go to a museum or a library.
just a girl who can accept me .. I guess.. and there's another things but I don't feel like typing them. I don't have time to learn how to pickup chicks. I've seen the articles online and if I want to I'll get around it.

These personal things are crap, besides how can you trust someone if you don't see their face.
hotornot relies on a user having a picture...

I mean I could say I am a blond, blue eyed skinny girl with a huge rack, but I might be lying.
possibly but most people don't lie that much. you're just being paranoid.

I'd rather get to know someone in person
of course, I agree, I would prefer that as well but still, no time.

For instance I joined a club at my college and I met a guy, who I really like. So go out and do things, like joining clubs, karaoke, anything where there might be someone you might like.
I went to a local php usergroup (http://www.tcphp.org/) .. although there was only one girl who was there (probably too old for me) and I didn't actually say anything while I was at this meet except a few words, it's a start.. interacting with other human beings.. neat stuff, sometimes.
also.. I hated college and luckily I'm not going back this coming semester.. hopefully I can put it off for awhile.

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and.. oddly enough, I think I just found a match on hotornot who is an intp.


I could Identify with almost everything I read in that essay.
I had linked her to the intp essay.

[Crazy]

I mean I could say I am a blond, blue eyed skinny girl with a huge rack, but I might be lying.

OK OK OK, the most important thing here is, are you lying?

[ohnoaninfp]

Wouldn't you like to know. ;P

[antireconciler]

I hope this helps someone. It helps me.


The question of loneliness is one we all must confront. We must understand that because we are compulsive, no amount of being with others, even a special loved one, will eliminate loneliness. The excitement of a new relationship, especially if it is sexual, will cover loneliness temporarily, but after a while, it no longer has the same effect, and loneliness returns. We may then look for another relationship, but we continue to suppress our loneliness, becoming superficial and using others ...

If you have not developed your capacity for loving yourself, you will be lonely regardless of whom you are with. You will not be able to accept love from others, even if they are genuinely loving. You may have experienced this in reverse – possibly you have been with someone who could not accept your love because they could not touch the love within themselves.

Integrating loneliness is the only way I know to work with it. Integrating the pain, the isolation, the separateness that you feel will result in its eventual transformation. Even though it sometimes seems as if it may never be possible to eliminate the experience of loneliness completely, there is no question that it is much more painful when we have developed the habit of suppressing it.

When loneliness is integrated, you will gain a sense of personal empowerment. You will feel more complete unto yourself and will choose to be with others to share yourself and your joy, not in the hope of finding happiness because you are with them. Relying on myself is a lesson that I have to relearn from time to time. Whenever I feel sad and turn to a friend for support or to find happiness, it rarely works. I am reminded that I must go within and welcome whatever feelings are there.