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[Avengardh]

So, I was thinking about what could be something we could chat about and I remembered that the one thing (among other things) that we are perhaps really different compared to other females, is our past relationships or lack of (not like this is a bad thing, I salute those who haven't wasted their time, hehe).

Why did you dump so-and-so? Why have you not been interested enough to consider being in a relationship? Any other experiences you would like to share, perhaps only INTP-females would understand?

As for me, I have only had 2 relationships, one with an INFJ (the closest I ever got to "loving" someone) and the other with an ISTP (awful).

I am way too slow when recognizing feelings, and I am not one to like the mushy-crap my last x seemed to like...and I can't really go to my female friends for advice or anything, because they don't get the way I am...most of them do anything and everything to "please their man", and I usually get bored with people.

My last relationship taught me to not let others pressure me into anything, specially if the person is male, for some reason all they think about is sex.
Yeah, sure, that's a natural human desire, but it's not everything when it comes to a relationship. That, and guys are weak...women really are so much stronger emotionally.

~*Aven*~

[ohnoaninfp]

I never went out with a guy as boyfriend and girlfriend. I keep attracting mainly jerks who just think I am easy then they treat me like Schwiesse. I do like a guy now, but who knows. Things are not going well for me in that area. I haven't seen him all summer and I don't think he knows that I do like him. I don't know what he is myers-briggs wise. I am an INFP so I guess maybe it would be a little difficult for you to understand me or for me to understand you. My friends are never available when I need them. I call my one friend up, but she is too busy or her fiancee won't leave her alone so she can talk to me. Just about every friend of mine who is a girl, is engaged or has a boyfriend. So they really wouldn't understand what I feel. Now I am not saying that I depend soley on a guy, if that were true I would probably be gone. I am just a little lonely. I don't know I am having a bad night.

[Jezebel]

I also haven't been in many serious relationships. I have felt apathetic about most of my dating experiences, so rather than ending badly, they just fizzled out without much consequence on my part. I got the feeling that many of the guys that I've dated wanted someone more affectionate, or someone with more common interests and values. There were some guys who would say it was "cool" that I was "different", but I could just tell that they weren't really interested in what I was into. Mostly though, I just haven't been all that interested in them.

There have been a couple guy friends who had crushes on me who I truly enjoyed as friends, but when it came to anything more, it just felt "icky" to know they thought of me like that. I got uncomfortable and cringed if they so much as touched me. These usually end either when the discomfort gets to me too much and one of us ends it, or they get a girlfriend and lose all interest in me.

The one time a relationship ended with someone I really did like, I took it pretty hard. But it was more due to the circumstances and how I was treated as a friend that got to me than the relationship ending. I felt like I got screwed over pretty bad by someone I had trusted. But I still talk to this person and have no bitter feelings toward him.

[Salad]

if i were to write my dating history, it would mirror jezebel's...


crap
*salad, realizing he's in the women section, runs away from his computer, only to realize he must run back to change the page*

[Avengardh]

I never went out with a guy as boyfriend and girlfriend. I keep attracting mainly jerks who just think I am easy then they treat me like Schwiesse. I do like a guy now, but who knows. Things are not going well for me in that area. I haven't seen him all summer and I don't think he knows that I do like him. I don't know what he is myers-briggs wise. I am an INFP so I guess maybe it would be a little difficult for you to understand me or for me to understand you. My friends are never available when I need them. I call my one friend up, but she is too busy or her fiancee won't leave her alone so she can talk to me. Just about every friend of mine who is a girl, is engaged or has a boyfriend. So they really wouldn't understand what I feel. Now I am not saying that I depend soley on a guy, if that were true I would probably be gone. I am just a little lonely. I don't know I am having a bad night.

It's all good, my relationships with guys are pretty much like Jez's too, I only talked about my 2 "real" relationships, although to me, only the former one counted.

I have a lot of friends who are feelers, at least it really seems like it, they listen to feelings more than logic, so I can at least understand where you are coming from, my brother is an ISFJ, and him and I talk about his need for a hug, it's perfectly understandable and normal.

Right now I have no desire to get involved with anyone, but like you said, most of my friends are either married or in a relationship, so I feel weird about it sometimes.

~*Aven*~

[Miss Padfoot]

*sigh* No real relationships here, either. I don't think my lack of experience is "by choice" like the girls who save themselves for their wedding nights or something, but it's also not because I'm so inept that nobody would want to enter a relationship with me. I guess I just don't like my emotions enough to bother.

[BritainOphira]

*sigh* No real relationships here, either. I don't think my lack of experience is "by choice" like the girls who save themselves for their wedding nights or something, but it's also not because I'm so inept that nobody would want to enter a relationship with me. I guess I just don't like my emotions enough to bother.

With me it's not so much that I dislike my emotions, I just don't have the need to be held accountable to one single person while simultaneously holding them responsible for their actions. Most people I know who are in relationships constantly complain that their boyfriend/girlfriend/significant other was talking to someone of the opposite gender, that they didn't comment on their new (hair style, shirt, shoes, fill in the blank here), that they aren't attentive enough, etc. all the while doing the exact opposite of whatever they want their s.o. to do. It just seems like too much work for my taste.
If I were to find someone I really cared about and wanted to be with, I would hope it would be a vastly different story, but right now I not up to dealing with it.

[Hypnos]

So, I was thinking about what could be something we could chat about and I remembered that the one thing (among other things) that we are perhaps really different compared to other females, is our past relationships or lack of (not like this is a bad thing, I salute those who haven't wasted their time, hehe).
One relationship: wicked chemistry and fair mutual respect, but too many difficulties with two strong personalities who like to do things very differently.

Another: got along like peas and carrots, but not enough "pull".