Warped emotions

[Seraph]

I should say that I'm not sure if I'm an INTP or INFP. Does the fact that I tear-up at times make me an INFP?

But it seems like I cry in the wrong situations. If someone is yelling at me and criticizing me, there's a good chance I'll have to fight back tears (of anger, not sadness...I cry when I'm angry, which is really frustrating). But if someone dies, I don't. For instance, at school ROTC, the adult leader started barking at me about something I didn't do, and I had to try hard not to break down. But a year or so ago, my cousin's baby daughter succumbed to cancer...and I didn't cry at all, just responded with quiet reflection. Even at the funeral, with everyone else bawling, I couldn't cry, only think.

Is anyone else like this?

[Jezebel]

I don't think that it can be determined by having feelings alone. T doesn't mean we can't feel just as strongly about something as the F types. I think it depends more on how you make decisions. When confronted with a problem, do you rely more on reasoning it out in a rational way, or do you rely more on your values and how you feel about it?

Also, if you're having trouble between two types, try reading the full descriptions of both. You can decide which one you relate to the most based on the overall description.

[HairlessBluetick]

Also, this may seem kind of bizarre, but try reading the ESFJ and ESTJ profiles. Sometimes that can be helpful as well.

[Oliver]

When I was younger I couldn't speak up load without getting tears in my eyes, not like crying though, I think it was the way my emotions reacted to me being nervous.
These days I often cry, when I get emotional I usualy explode, it happens around twice a year, fortunatly :)
I don't know how to react when people bring bad news, like somebody passing away, in those situations I just feel like a dead rock or something.
But, waching a movie or a sitcom can drag me down, probably because the characters involved don't get to see me getting emotional. I also get very nervous when somebody notices me with tears, at the movies or in front of the tv.
Ow yeah, I use humor to defend myself against this nervousity.

[BritainOphira]

But it seems like I cry in the wrong situations. If someone is yelling at me and criticizing me, there's a good chance I'll have to fight back tears (of anger, not sadness...I cry when I'm angry, which is really frustrating).

I sometimes catch myself doing the same thing. When I was younger (elementary school age) I would just break down crying for absolutely no reason. It drove my teachers crazy. I couldn't begin to count the number of, "You are a good student, so I know it's not the work. What is the matter? Quit crying! I will send you home if you don't..." speeches I was subjected to. Now it only happens if I get stressed out, really tired, or really emotional (it doesn't matter what emotion, anything from sadness to anger to apathy can do it).

[EternalCynic]

Same here! Except with me, it's more like I'm just taking everything too personally. I always tell myself in my head "They're just trying to be helpful, they're not attacking -you- personally" but it's so hard not to feel hurt by criticism.

[libertarianjim]

I can relate to all of this: I take criticism of my performance very personally and fight hard not to get emotional about it, but I've never shed a tear at the many funerals I've been to, including my grandfather's, and he and I were very close.

But I sobbed like a baby when Mario Lemieux retired, and then again when he came out of retirement.

[Google Monster]

Thing that gets me over the edge is when I get accused of something I didn't do or when someone won't let me finish my sentences. I barely have something to say out loud and when I say something I want to finish damnit!!

[int]

As stated, being a T preference does not mean you don't have any F.

I used to cry when I was angry. Not so much after the awkward teenage phase wore off. I don't cry when I'm sad or low anymore either. I do cry when expressing love though. That's been kinda frustrating lately, in the happy sense. Oh well. :)

[Division56]

I never cry or get emotional at things like death or loss.

I have been known to cry with tears of sheer rage and fury though. Movies can make me cry, in a way that I would never in real life. I normally cry one or two times a year during my breakdowns.

[Google Monster]

Some movies can make me teary. But crying for something esle will be rare. I think I did enough of that stuff when I was alot younger.

[int]

So what can us younger guys (and girls) expect in the coming years?

[Google Monster]

How old are ya? I am still young considered the average life span. I'm only 22.

My friends had a habit od teasing to have fun so we got out of hand many times. I think they just got me to just stop caring. Good friends eh?
Enjoy pain and you won't worry as much when it comes.

[int]

meh. I'm 25, but the question is still relevant to those who can help. :)

[Google Monster]

Well I'll detail my answer a bit more since I have time now.

After thinking of pain I knew that the whole purpose of pain is to heal. See most people tend to not welcome pain and in turn feel it more because ignored pain just builds up.
Both physical and emotional pain have the same healing meaning and whether you break your hand or your heart the pain just lets you know what area needs attention. If enough pain is ignored you are likely to get overwhelmed by it and fall into depression or shock.
The longer you wait to deal with your pain the harder it becomes to identify it. So to welcome pain is to identify it as soon as you feel it and can be dealt with right away.

Another thing I have been practicing lately was fear. Fear seems to stop me from doing some things I want to do but fear doing it. So instead of trying my damndest to be fearless I take fear with me. Seems to work pretty good, I noticed that after doing something you are afraid of a few times the fear just goes away from confidence and experience.

[CosmicDust]

If someone is yelling at me and criticizing me, there's a good chance I'll have to fight back tears (of anger, not sadness...I cry when I'm angry, which is really frustrating). But if someone dies, I don't. For instance, at school ROTC, the adult leader started barking at me about something I didn't do, and I had to try hard not to break down. But a year or so ago, my cousin's baby daughter succumbed to cancer...and I didn't cry at all, just responded with quiet reflection. Even at the funeral, with everyone else bawling, I couldn't cry, only think.

Is anyone else like this?
That sounds a lot like me. I've cried a little when someone dies, but the tears come automatically when I believe I've failed. And I'm pretty damn sure I'm a T.

[NGene]

I'm a damn crybaby. Most of my acquaintances don't realize it because I'm good at fighting back my tears.

When I'm angry and full of fury, I start crying. When I feel strong love, I start crying. When I become passionate about a goal I'm pursuing, I may cry. My favorite songs are the ones that make me cry. It seems that whenever I feel strongly, no matter what that feeling is, I start crying.

There's one feeling that is an exception. Sadness. When I'm sad or depressed, I don't cry. I become angry and aggressive instead, but don't cry.

That's all just messed up.

[Johnny]

I break down and cry maybe once every 5 years or so. There was one time that I was really sad and tried to cry ( :lol: ), but it just didn't work...and the times that I do, it's almost reflexive, completely out of my control (but still during times when it would seem an appropriate response).

I do wish sometimes that the release of crying came more often, that it might be more constructive than anger or taking something apart. :sombrero:

[flan2dave]

Wow, so many their emotions similarly to the way I see mine. :) I get weepy when I have strong emotions. Sometimes one side of me is scorning what is inpiring the emotion, and the other side ready to go to tears. I think it helps to choose the latter more often. I don't know why, it's just refreshing.

[BritainOphira]

I've also recently noticed that when placed in a confrontational situation I am more likely to get teary, like today when I had to tell the play dictator that I was quitting to pursue more "academic endeavors." Just the thought of talking to her bothered me so much that, after recruiting about three other people to go with me and delaying by taking one of my friends across the street to go buy floats, I thought I would break down before getting everything out.