"overloading" emotionally when discovering a fellow INTP

[David Carolina]

Anyone else so surprised and glad to meet another person with a mature level of rational/intuitive/ depth that they play their cards a bit too soon in the friendship?

I know I do. Every day I meet boring drones. I finish their sentences for them in my head. You can see the media manipulation in their illogical thinking. But I'm kind to one and all and politely attempt to bring up a compelling topic of conversation to see if they'll bite: along the lines of "so...apart from the Gap outfit who ARE you anyway"?

Getting a blank stare, and a gambit to return to a more reasonable topic..."Im getting a new celphone"!!!!!!!

I have the intuition that i tend to sort of "cling" to new INTP people that I meet. I should play it cool!
Nah...that would be boring

[waxwing]

Anyone else so surprised and glad to meet another person with a mature level of rational/intuitive/ depth that they play their cards a bit too soon in the friendship?

I know I do. Every day I meet boring drones. I finish their sentences for them in my head. You can see the media manipulation in their illogical thinking. But I'm kind to one and all and politely attempt to bring up a compelling topic of conversation to see if they'll bite: along the lines of "so...apart from the Gap outfit who ARE you anyway"?

Getting a blank stare, and a gambit to return to a more reasonable topic..."Im getting a new celphone"!!!!!!!

I have the intuition that i tend to sort of "cling" to new INTP people that I meet. I should play it cool!
Nah...that would be boring
Funny, but I think I know what you mean. It's refreshing to meet another INTP. Several months ago, I met one and didn't exactly cling to him, but was eager to be friends. I don't think I've "emotionally overloaded" recently, but I do have this tendency (in general) to either spill everything or nothing at all. For me, it also has a lot to do with connection. When I feel even the spark of a connection, it's inebriating. It happens so rarely.

[Nighthawk]

For me, just meeting another NT is like meeting a fellow countryman in Vladivostok.

[nottaprettygal]

I do have this tendency (in general) to either spill everything or nothing at all. For me, it also has a lot to do with connection. When I feel even the spark of a connection, it's inebriating. It happens so rarely.

Mmhmm, I feel the same way. I'm either completely withholding or divulge everything to a person. An INTP that I've met recently probably knows more about me than some people I've known for years (and surprisingly it hasn't frightened him away...yet).

I try to resist the urge to become too clingy though because when someone is that way with me I back off.

[coffeezombie]

I like it when people are curious about me more than clingy towards me. I try to behave towards other INTPs I meet the same way I'd want someone to be around me, of course.

[aether]

I like it when people are curious about me more than clingy towards me. I try to behave towards other INTPs I meet the same way I'd want someone to be around me, of course.

Me too, those who are curious about of INTP's tend to be special people.

I don't think I have really met a real INTP before, though.

[PiccoloNamek]

Same here, I don't think I've ever met another INTP in real life.

[In...TP]

Premature emulation

[Imen de Naars]

For me, just meeting another NT is like meeting a fellow countryman in Vladivostok.


Yeah, exactly. After MBTI, I've learned that I'd better start the keeping in touch when I recognize one

[Helios]

I like it when people are curious about me more than clingy towards me. I try to behave towards other INTPs I meet the same way I'd want someone to be around me, of course.



Best not to be overly curious that will weird me out! I'll have break out the pseudo-persona deflector shields and red herrings. Too much curiousity, is shades of a psyco INFP!

I really don't trust people, but nor do most of the NTs I have met. Getting to know and trust each other is a slow but fun dance.

However I can relate to this topic I remember this happening a few times in highschool, but I am inoculated now by my own cynicism. This works well for me, cause most people are frauds, and those damn NF's can be insidious!

[Ka.avik]

For me, just meeting another NT is like meeting a fellow countryman in Vladivostok. agreed wholeheartedly.

While I have been drawn to a few 'precise' folk (INTJ in one case) the "what is my goal" attitude of the Js will eventually drive me away...but, I know a few INTPs. And I spend a lot of time hanging out, as time allows. Another is an ESTP. You can kinda tell 'cuz he likes to argue, but the easy-going attitude, coupled with an interest in things technical (he's a retired mechanic) makes it so much fun to talk.

You've probably all heard about the ENFP coworker -- she can get on my nerves, but that easygoing N can make for some long conversations, just standing in the parking lot...ostensibly en route to our cars, not 10 feet away.

[DevRock]

Same here, I don't think I've ever met another INTP in real life.

Ditto. I'm trying to think, but can't recall anyone on "my level." My dad is to a point, but he's VERY social and can talk a corpse to death, whereas I'm not.

[TwoBigFish]

I have never met another INTP in real life either ... but excepting the off-chance that they share my somewhat rigid (I don't afford that word any negative connotations in this instance) ideological worldview, we probably wouldn't get along anyway. :blink:

I'm very very open-minded, and I don't like trying to get other people to fit into some sort of theological and political box of my own construction (I wouldn't respect them if they changed for me), but I'm simply uninterested in finding yet another person with whom I have nothing in common to discuss ... and religion and politics are my thing.

Unfortunately, according to my unofficial and probably thoroughly unreliable estimation of INTPs in general, I think the disregard for accepted authority for the sake of authority almost pre-sets most of my MBTI peers against me ... perhaps not the older ones ... as you age, you tend to moderate your strongest ... hmmm ... but even there, I know what I mean but I don't know how to phrase what I mean.

I am so alone.

*Some* men (and chicks, too!) ARE an island. :banana:

-C

[Nighthawk]

I have never met another INTP in real life either ... You'll meet four of them tomorrow night http://forums.intpcentral.com/images/smilies/smile.gif

[bamsemums]

Lucky me then. One of my best friends (and a colleague) is an INTP. It's very refreshing to discover someone who speaks the same language.

:)

[TwoBigFish]

Y'all don't count. I'll be nice to you, b/c I won't be forced to see you day after day after day, hating the fact that you're such a cool person with such uncool ideals. Wait ... did I say that out loud? Nope, I typed it? Good.

:blink:

And don't try to goad me, I'm very good at NOT fighting. ;P

-C

[eyebyte_atWork]

We'll be on our best behavior :rant:

[TwoBigFish]

Why does everyone have a stronger (P) than me? It's starting to piss me off.

-C :rant:

[Nighthawk]

And don't try to goad me, I'm very good at NOT fighting. http://forums.intpcentral.com/images/smilies/harhar1.gif That's cool. I'm very good at not goading http://forums.intpcentral.com/images/smilies/wink.gif

[eyebyte_atWork]

Why does everyone have a stronger (P) than me? It's starting to piss me off.

-C :rant:


Actually - I think I am borderline p/j... but sometimes I wonder.

I reaally wonder.

[TwoBigFish]

SUH-WEET. You're almost obessive, but too lazy to be compulsive. (Well, that's how *I* am, anyways). :P

-C