Position Amendment

[kendoiwan]

Many times in the past i have gone on record to proclaim the utter annoyingness of ESFJ's... Well after working side by side with one for over a month now i must make some adjustment in my position...

They are still annoying... but annoyingly helpful, and in a logistical sense considerate... I never want for anything because she is always offering me things, food, snacks, services, etc. For that matter all of the staff that i immediately work with can say the same lest you think i am only making this amendment due to special treatment... so in closing the first words to pop into my mind at the mention of an esfj will still be "nag, nag, nag" but a close second will be "helpful sweethearts". That is all

[sbw]

she wants you. that's why she's being nice.

Scott

[Biff_Loman]

No she doesn't. They're like that to everyone. If only this would translate into sexual looseness, but you know: not necessarily so.

[geniusndisguise]

No she doesn't. They're like that to everyone.

Yes, they are, but let me tell you how they are as in-laws. Ughhhh! Actually they are sweet people who really just want you to be happy. My father-in-law is an ESFJ and my mother-in-law an ISFJ. My husband and I are both N's and we drive them nuts as much as they drive us nuts. They are so completely concerned with what other people think, and preserving the status quo it's maddening. But, you have it exactly right: Nag, nag, nag. . . "here, have a cookie!"

[sbw]

No she doesn't. They're like that to everyone. If only this would translate into sexual looseness, but you know: not necessarily so.

I don't think that they're all like that to everyone (at least not all the time). I've seen nicer people than me get shit on for perceived inattentiveness. or swearing (or drinking, or smoking, or whatever).

(I would never base my assessment on how they treat me, because I'm an asshole)

Scott