INTPs' compatibilty

[Pooja]

I'm wondering...are INTPs (generally) most compatible with other INTPs? I'm asking because each and every one of the best friends that I've had in my life have been ENFPs... I'm not sure if I've ever even met a fellow INTP (in real life). Is this because I'm just not drawn towards people similar to myself, or because there are simply a larger # of ENFPs running around, so the probablity of befriending one is higher? By nature, I'm very easy-going and laid-back. In contrast, my friends are generally the outgoing, entertaining, "drama queen" types, who NEED a calming influence (me :) ). And in return, I have free entertainment, and people who force me to be less of a loner. Not that they've been successful though...
What type are your friends? Is there a pattern?

[Darkness]

I get along best with the following types:

ENTP's- can be very charming.
ENTJ's-also very charming.
INFP's-very senstive people and great to hang around.
INTJ's- a few of them have helped me work on my J's weakness.
ISTP's-I have one who is my best friend and we share some common interests.

ENFP's- Drama Kings and Queens. I have one who is my best friend.
ESTP's- They drain my energy within two minutes.
INTP's- My mother whom I love and hate at the same time. We're identical and she always knows what I'm thinking. We don't even need to talk to eachother. Both of us are very moody and it depends on which mood you catch us in at that instant.

* I remain indifferent to the rest of the types but I can get along with anyone, I want.

[DeadDove]

My friends vary drastically. Growing up all my best friends were total introverts, or they were good at athletics. My best friend from 1st grade is an ISTJ (guess) which is the same personality type as my dad. Real laid back and we have just always clicked because we could understand what each of us is thinking; yet different enough to have different hobbies which allowed us to try different things cause your best friend is into it. We've grown apart lately though with him getting out of the army and him having a "loser" type attitude about life, and that really irritates me. But anyhow, if I had to pick a best friend today it would be an xSTJ that I've known since fresh yr of hs. He'll float with an introvert core, yet has a lot of extroverted tendancies which have made him very successful thus far. One of my other good friends is an ENFJ and he's just "out there". He'll do things and say things that none of my other friends would say if we were serious, and he'll thinking nothing of it. I started hanging around him more this past year because I really needed a core group of friends to identify with during my move from Sacramento. Hanging out with him allowed me to meet a lot of other people who have introverted tendancies. We'd have parties and poker nights at his house and then we'd get people together and it's sooooo easy to spot the introverts there, that I feel compeletely comfortable going over and having a conversation with them knowing that we'd click. Ironically enough, most of my friends are introverts. Another of my good friends is an ExxJ and he's real good for making sure you are going to have a good time, and also for meeting people. He knows EVERYONE, it's crazy. He is very similar to one of my cousins that brings me out of my "shell."

With me though, I don't know if its about personality type though. I like people that are different from me. But I don't think that it's just personality. My fourth roomate was COMPLETELY different from me, an ESFJ and my gosh; we should have had our own sitcom. He was a semi spoiled rich white kid, while I was of the low-middle class mexican gang-related mold. The drama that took place from his cars trunk not locking, shopping at pier 1 imports (his idea, not mine), him having a bed without a boxspring - it was just always something going on to where I'd have to shake my head and be like, "ok here's what we are going to do," while he'd throw his hands up in the air wondering what to do. Crazyness.

Anyhow I don't really buy into the personality type theory. I met some INTP's before. There turned out to be 3 of us setting near eachother in one of my pysch classes yet I got the vibe that something was "off" about them. So I didn't want to get to know them because of that, not because they were similar to me. IMO, with me if you are a good person we'll click. Pretty much as simple as that. All my friends come from vastly different backgrounds. My best friend since 1st grade is Portuguese. My friend who would be my new best friend is a (hybrid mix as he likes to call it) between Japanese-Chinese. Two of my other friends that I was talking about are white. One friend who I didn't mention but I've known since birth (born 13 days apart and our parents were friends) is Mexican. One of our other friends is Filipino. And two others are Chinese. So it's a pretty deverse group of "main" friends. I love the deversity in the group and help my Chinese-Japanese friends' family out during the the Obon festival by doing some mannual labor during the two days a year I'm "Japanese". Got to love the expirences you get by hanging out with different cultures. So that's kind of how I go off of. Doesn't matter your personality type as long as you a "cool" tis all good.

*Disclaimer note* This is my first post with my current avatar, it is meant to be funny since the new year is coming up and a lot of people will be consuming alcohol over their "limit" and they might find themselves in a similar pose. I do not find the actually giving of animals alcoholic beverages funny however. I was not a contributor to this squirals death, it was found that way by me and some of my friends 2 yrs ago on a walk through of a sacramento parking lot after a game of basketball and a beer bottle happened to be near by. One of the members of the group thought it would be "interesting" to pose it with the bottle that was near by, I did not partake in the activity and was later e-mailed this photo. If there are any complaints with this avatar please PM me and inform me. If a significant number (to be determined at my descretion) of members (not guests) of this forum object I shall remove it and post another avatar of either myself or 2pac. Avatars of myself are however limited to me posing shirtless, wearing a wig (both of which have been seen) or a hs pic of myself which I recently found on my computer. Thank you for your dedication in reading this post.

[Braggi]

INFJ
INTP
INTJ

[Ella]

My best friend of 14 years is an ISTP. His acumen with anything mechanical borders on magical, and he feels the same way about my N. We have lots of common interests and enjoy the world in many similar ways. He loves "what if" kinds of discussions, psychosocial observations, and critical analysis, and describes my INTPness as "charming eccentricity." He takes all of my non-mainstream behaviours which someone else would find peculiar completely in stride, which is a really great acceptance to find in a friend. I have no family (I'm an orphan) and he is the closest thing I've ever had to a sibling.

[Darkness]

(I'm an orphan)

That must have been very tough on you? My aunt adopted a girl and she is now 6 years old. I suspect she is a ESTP. A bundle of energy and so opposite of my biological family. In fact she came over today and I was having fun messing around with her. She is a tomboy and doesn't like to do girl things. She loves playing with videogames, cars, and guns. She is very popular among her friends and the boss of everyone. A very cute kid...

[Ella]

I'm not adopted, my parents were killed by a drunk driver when I was six and I was raised by my maternal grandmother.

[Darkness]

I'm not adopted, my parents were killed by a drunk driver when I was six and I was raised by my maternal grandmother.

I'm sorry to read that and offer my condolences...

[abathur]

I'm not sure I know any INTPs IRL either.

Though, there's a girl I know now who I'm not so sure about--at first I read her to be an infp, though maybe a weak I, because of her spontanaiety, really deep compassion and a really deep, introspective knowledge of herself. Since then I've been second guessing that a little, not really sure I can pin the last two letters down, though I've yet to see anything to make me think I'm wrong about her being an IN. I've, at times, wondered if she might not be an INTP with a weak T, too, which doesn't seem to be uncommon among female friends I've had, so it wouldn't surprise me. She's got a pretty deep compassion for others, but she also has a rough relationship with her mother, which might involve a good bit of social conditioning ;)

Anyways, getting to a point, which I rarely do: most of my friends tend to be nearer the middle of the E/I scale to either side, Ns (or really open-minded Ss) and fairly mild on the T/F scale as well. Perhaps this is related to my own strong N with a weaker I and T.

[Ella]

You can always steer people to the truncated version of the MBTI online at Humanmetrics' web site to determine their type (and confirm - or not - your guesses). I've found it to be pretty reliable and since it's free and only 72 yes/no questions, most people don't object to taking it.

Thank you, Darkness, it was a long time ago now.

[avalanche]

It's easier to say what I'm not compatible with. Mainly extraverts and strong feelers.

[last_caress]

INFJ
INTP

People who are weakly E are ok with me.

Like others, I'm not sure I could spot an INTP in the wild.

[Toonia]

I've read that the INTP pal is ENTP, companion is INFP, and complement is INTJ. INFJ aren't mentioned on their profile, but it has come up a lot in this thread, and I am an INFJ who is bonkers for an INTP, so I'd like to think there's a little something to it. :banana: :banana:

[Superstring]

I'm wondering...are INTPs (generally) most compatible with other INTPs? I'm asking because each and every one of the best friends that I've had in my life have been ENFPs... I'm not sure if I've ever even met a fellow INTP (in real life). Is this because I'm just not drawn towards people similar to myself, or because there are simply a larger # of ENFPs running around, so the probablity of befriending one is higher? By nature, I'm very easy-going and laid-back. In contrast, my friends are generally the outgoing, entertaining, "drama queen" types, who NEED a calming influence (me :) ). And in return, I have free entertainment, and people who force me to be less of a loner. Not that they've been successful though...
What type are your friends? Is there a pattern?

I have an INTP friend. Being INTP's is a huge thing about ourselves because we see things in the same unconventional ways and have the same unorthodox sentiments about things, and find the same things really funny. I find INTP's can also piss each other off when they feel too similar to each other in an unpleasant way, and like saying another word to the person would be like making love to yourself in public. But INTP's are simply the best, I wish everyone on earth was an INTP. As friends INTP's are kickass, in my books.

But relationship-relationship-wise, I dated an INTP girl, and it was the most insanely good relationship I've ever had, because we both had the same interests; being successful, having fun, and like, doing it...and no need for bullshit conversation in between. We had to break it off when she went away for school, which was very sad, but we have an amazing connection and I would still marry this girl at the drop of a hat.

EDIT: She was an ISTP. That's the ticket. Come to think of it, INTP girls and I probably wouldn't last more than a day...

[Sally]

I could probably get along with most any type.

I've had the most fun living with an INFJ and an ENFJ. They each let me ramble at them about whatever Intricate Thought System I was working on at the time without being enthralled but without being totally uninterested, either.

ISTP - definitely a good shared-interest friend. I think I read one description that sais that INTPs and ISTPs reach the same conclusions by following completely different paths. I definitely find that to be true.

So I'd say xNFJ = companion, ISTP = buddy. Oh and I have another friend whom I strongly suspect is an ENTP. She's almost too much like me to be as good a companion-friend as the xNFJs. Oh and I do have one friend who's definitely an INTP. We go years without talking sometimes, but we can always pick up right where we left off. And another friend who's probably an INFP.... I tend to accidentally hurt his feelings, but then he forgives me, so it's ok. :) And a friend who I think is a borderline INT(J)... She can be a bit intimidating at times.

And that's about it as far as friends I have whom I've typed goes. All my friends tend to test INTP, though, so go figure. Maybe they are all INTP, but because I know them so well, I focus on how different we all are from each other.

[mr. treat]

my two best friends are an istp and an enfp, and they both have their own unique ways of entertaining me, although if forced to choose i would go with the istp. i tend to like isxj's for some reason.. they're so easy to predict, and i always know how things are going to play out around them, so it provides me with a certain sense of safety (or control).

i do have one intp friend, and he is one of the biggest assholes i know. i get along great with him, but when drunk he gets violent, and needs to be taken care of in the same manner.

[xHTx]

I have friends who are ENFP, ISFP, ESFP, INTJ, ENTP, INFJ, INFP, and INTP.

[Superstring]

I could probably get along with most any type.

I've had the most fun living with an INFJ and an ENFJ. They each let me ramble at them about whatever Intricate Thought System I was working on at the time without being enthralled but without being totally uninterested, either.



I can second that. My two best friends that I have such a rambling/listening relationship are INFJ and ENFJ. With these people I share the most 'same wavelength' time when talking about things that are really funny, and also when thinking creatively about uncharted human territory-type stuff.





ISTP - definitely a good shared-interest friend. I think I read one description that sais that INTPs and ISTPs reach the same conclusions by following completely different paths. I definitely find that to be true. So I'd say xNFJ = companion, ISTP = buddy.

I fully agree. I don't know if any other 'S' could be as cool as ISTP's. As a friend I find ISTP's are fun people to explore uncharted territory with, I find. Like, to go out and do new things you've never done before with, and I think ISTP's make awesome girlfriends as well! The companion and buddy analogy I find is mind-blowingly true. Which strikes me as funny because that means I think the less serious "buddy" is better for relationships!....And I totally stand by that, I'm not entirely sure if I could marry and xNFJ girl....honestly, the F is WAY too much to handle. Not to mention the J sometimes.


Oh and I have another friend whom I strongly suspect is an ENTP. She's almost too much like me to be as good a companion-friend as the xNFJs. Oh and I do have one friend who's definitely an INTP. We go years without talking sometimes, but we can always pick up right where we left off. And another friend who's probably an INFP.... I tend to accidentally hurt his feelings, but then he forgives me, so it's ok. :) And a friend who I think is a borderline INT(J)... She can be a bit intimidating at times.

And that's about it as far as friends I have whom I've typed goes. All my friends tend to test INTP, though, so go figure. Maybe they are all INTP, but because I know them so well, I focus on how different we all are from each other.

Yeah I simply don't bother trying with INTJ's anymore. They have too much of a plan, they're too rigid and inflexible and a little narrow-minded when it comes time to disagree on something. Two significant friends of mine in life have been INTJ's and to me, I found the best way to get along was to not take their friendship the least bit seriously and only hang out if I have nothing better to do, and feel like going with the flow and doing things their way, whatever way that is, for a night. Actually, both friendships existed solely because we were in bands together..one of them at present. Working under an INTJ was annoying because they were too dim to notice the really great things I had to contribute, and now that it's upside down and an INTJ is working "under" me (he's the drummer), I find it takes vigilence to remember not to take shit and play the boss, and to stick to your own plan. INTJ's are just too in love with decision making and planning to give it a rest for 5 seconds. And yeah, any opposite-sex FP friendship has always required a consistent effort not to slip into possible "feelings-hurting" territory....much like treading water.

I am simply blown away at how much your post rings true with me! thanks for sharing! :v)

[Conan]

My lifetime best friend is an INTP. We just sort of got each other from the first time we met and that was long before I ever knew what an INTP was.

[tinribz]

I don't know if I know any other intps, my few friends are nearly always extroverts and a lot of fun. Obviously I only take small doses.

As much as I'd like to I never seem to hit it off with I's I seem to scare them off.

[John]

is there a free Myers briggs test online for my friend to take, or do all the real ones cost money

[Vagabond]

is there a free Myers briggs test online for my friend to take, or do all the real ones cost money http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/JTypes2.asp

[John]

thanks, it seemed to have worked out she is an infj and we are friends

[Edmond Zedo]

I usually get along with NTs, NFs, and SPs, especially INTP, ENTP, INFP, ENFP, ESTP, ESFP.

[Conan]

Yeah I might even get along better with ENTPs than I do INTPs.

[Nemesis]

Yeah I might even get along better with ENTPs than I do INTPs.
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[AllThingsConsidered]

I've read that the INTP pal is ENTP, companion is INFP, and complement is INTJ. INFJ aren't mentioned on their profile, but it has come up a lot in this thread, and I am an INFJ who is bonkers for an INTP, so I'd like to think there's a little something to it. :banana: :banana:

That is interesting.
My first love was ENTP (We should have never taken it past friendship.)
My closest female friend is INFP. (A little clingy)
Best friendship I ever had was INTJ.

Others I've been able to relate to include:
ENTJ
ENFJ (ended badly, but overall friendship was fun)
ENFP (need a lot of space from)
ISTJ
ISTP

Had major issues with:
ESFJ (Unreasonable)
ESTP
ESFJ (Fake)
ESTJ
ESFJ (Overly sensitive and manipulative)
ISFJ

Don't think I have ever met an INFJ or another INTP- IRL.