Jealous much?

[Ckyzxr]

One characteristic that has distinguished me from most of my peers is an apparent lack of jealousy. I have never felt jealous under any circumstances.

Even in my high school years when I my self-esteem showed no bottom, I didn't get jealous when other males openly courted my significant other. One time a guy baked my girlfriend a birthday cake and I was there when he gave it to her at school, I helped eat it with everyone.

Any other INTPs show this trait? Any theories?

[MacGuffin]

I am less jealous than most. It does exist though.

Maybe it is the low T/F threshold I have.

[jimkopelli]

Sometimes I used to be, but I haven't had the opportunity recently. Now I just get irate.

[Birdsnest]

I do get jealous pretty easily. Look at they way tinkerbell behaved, I am much like that. Get red in the face, and indignant & totally flustered when any female flirts around my boyfriend, but I have no threats at that point, so the only way I can react is to end the relationship. I have zero capacity to handle any type of flirting. That just gets me deeply, because I figure if someone is going out with someone, they should be 100% loyal, no flirting whatsoever. (Thats a good reason for me to stay single).

[Sam172]

I get very jealous. Which is really annoying.

My most recent significant other actually cheated on me when she was pissed out of her head on cider with 2 other males....
That made me very jealous. Thankfully i'm a passive person :)

[Division56]

I get jealous. I hold mild grudges too, but normally never act on them.

[BritainOphira]

I get jealous sometimes, when I'm in the right mood, but it's usually over something extremely childish.

[Boozer]

I'm very jealous now. But I didn't start out that way. I blame an old extroverted girlfriend that was too flirty (for me anyway). Now I can't seem to stop the flood of paranoid delusions when I'm not with my signifigant other.

It's kind of silly. I'm pretty shy at first so I never "break the ice". This has led to a disproportionate amount of my girlfriends being the ones that pursued me. Which means they were usually extroverted enough to do it. Which means that when we are now "together" I can't deal with thier outgoing nature at social gatherings which I percieve as being too flirty. I've also noticed that I have a tough time dealing with girlfriends that have mostly male friends. They never seem to believe me when I say that ALL of thier male friends want to sleep with them. I may be wrong about ALL of them. But I can't be that far off, there isn't much else we think about.

[Division56]

I'm very jealous now. But I didn't start out that way. I blame an old extroverted girlfriend that was too flirty (for me anyway). Now I can't seem to stop the flood of paranoid delusions when I'm not with my signifigant other.

It's kind of silly. I'm pretty shy at first so I never "break the ice". This has led to a disproportionate amount of my girlfriends being the ones that pursued me. Which means they were usually extroverted enough to do it. Which means that when we are now "together" I can't deal with thier outgoing nature at social gatherings which I percieve as being too flirty. I've also noticed that I have a tough time dealing with girlfriends that have mostly male friends. They never seem to believe me when I say that ALL of thier male friends want to sleep with them. I may be wrong about ALL of them. But I can't be that far off, there isn't much else we think about.



You need to find your gilrlfriend some gay friends. Then all you have to worry about is whether they want to sleep with you. :rofl: ;P :nerd:

[Crazy]

I am significantly less prone to jealousy than most people I've met. However we have been jealous on occasion.

[Boozer]

I'm very jealous now. But I didn't start out that way. I blame an old extroverted girlfriend that was too flirty (for me anyway). Now I can't seem to stop the flood of paranoid delusions when I'm not with my signifigant other.

It's kind of silly. I'm pretty shy at first so I never "break the ice". This has led to a disproportionate amount of my girlfriends being the ones that pursued me. Which means they were usually extroverted enough to do it. Which means that when we are now "together" I can't deal with thier outgoing nature at social gatherings which I percieve as being too flirty. I've also noticed that I have a tough time dealing with girlfriends that have mostly male friends. They never seem to believe me when I say that ALL of thier male friends want to sleep with them. I may be wrong about ALL of them. But I can't be that far off, there isn't much else we think about.



You need to find your gilrlfriend some gay friends. Then all you have to worry about is whether they want to sleep with you. :rofl: ;P :nerd:
:rofl:

[spirilis]

hmmm... I am quite prone to it, and feel very uncomfortable as such. It is one of those feelings I dread, and it's usually very hard to keep a straight demeanor when I am feeling jealous about something. Just one of those quirks. I'd blame it on a childish Fe that comes out once in a blue moon.

[EternalCynic]

I get extremely jealous, though I hardly ever show it.

But I find it hard to hold grudges. *Shrugs* Odd, I suppose.

[spirilis]

I get extremely jealous, though I hardly ever show it.

But I find it hard to hold grudges. *Shrugs* Odd, I suppose.
sometimes I hold grudges because they remain as a "stain" in my psyche every time I think about (or especially) see them... like I remember the feelings very well... or something. Usually this only pertains to really significant grudges.

[Arioch]

I do not seem prone to jealousy. Actually I can't seem to remember any situation where I was actually jealous.

[KentOhio]

I can get jealous.

[Vagabond]

I don't get jealous. Well, not often... but I guess I can be.

[Avengardh]

Not really...but that might not count cause I wasn't "in love"...alright, so I don't really get much jealous (at all....but it does occassionally happen), if the person cheats on me it's over, so, why worry?

~*Aven*~

[jimkopelli]

Yeah, I hold grudges longer than I probably should... but there's a lot of dismissal o things that aren't really important or won't make a difference in the long run.

[Arcael]

I'm never really jealous of anyone, but I do hold grudges :D

I tend to look at a person and say "They aren't happy" heh
(which probably attributes to me not being jealous of anyone :P)

[Jezebel]

I can't remember being jealous in a relationship. I sometimes find myself asking guys I'm with about past girlfriends/experiences out of curiosity and it doesn't bother me at all. I don't care when other girls flirt with someone I'm with, or even if my boyfriend says another girl is attractive.

I get jealous toward others who got an advantage on getting something I wanted sometimes, but it's not something I obsess over or act on.

[Spartan26]

Not much jealous here. I think my parents "cured" me of it early on. I can remember my older sister and her friends getting to go some place with Brownies or something like that. They were relentless in teasing me about not getting go. So I took a red crayon (can't believe I got the color right) and scribbled deep into a white table in my sister's bedroom set. I mean quarter inch scratch marks.

Punishment was swift and exacting, without counsel being given a chance for rebuttal. Let alone, cross examination or discovery of a history of antagonizing behavior.

Jealousy was an emotion that wasn't allowed

In the case of women, I think I've been hurt when I know someone I'm interested in someone whose heart isn't really mine. I think I know this though before hand. It's not like I've been out and thought my date's been laughing it up with some strange guys all night. This talking to other guys ends tonight! Just in how she talks to me or acts around me when we're alone lets me know where I stand. I don't know how mad I can get at someone for not liking me.

A couple of times I've had women try to make me jealous but it's their general lack of honesty or being a game player or trying to test me that's done us in not the jealousy/does he really care about me aspect.

[Partisan]

The only jealousy I experience is with a significant other. I have dated two sadists (Not literally), one for 2.6 years, the other I had known for 10 years before we dated. I was extremely jealous at the end of the realtionships, only to find that both had been with someone else. Yes, I am vaildating my jealousy, even though it is a bad practice, it wasn't without intuition.

[lauriep]

I've actually found out that I should have been more jealous in hindsight. (Never even saw the flirting or could have imagined that it had turned into something more.)
However, once scorned, I tend to hold grudges way too long. Probably because I can easily recall the memory of the hurt long beyond when some people even remember the incident.

[greenintp]

I don't get jealous anymore. I've learned that I will soon lose interest anyway so why waste my energy.

[nobarcode]

- the jealous type.

[Arioch]

I wonder how much you have to love someone to be jealous?

[t]

i'm not unreasonably jealous, however i do get jealous over the "normal" jeasousy provokers (as in if someone cheats on me). i've always been complimented by boyfriends on my lack of jealousy, though. however, i hold grudges for years. i suppose that could be the italian in me, though. :P

[nobarcode]

I wonder how much you have to love someone to be jealous?
I was going to edit my post in consideration of just that. Normally, I'm not the jealous type; but normally, I'm not in a relationship.

[hemanthraz]

hmm, i dont get jealous for the usual reasons, its usually something small that triggers a fit and then i tend to go all out.When my girlfriend flirts with guys i think its tolerable, but when she sends me a mail with copies to other guys, then i get really green.
Signs of a strange mind i suppose