So while we're on the topic of breakups...
I need to breakup with my current girlfriend sometime in the not too distant future, it's getting to that critical mass point for me and it's no longer being fair to her. Breaking up is difficult and emotional, especially when the other person is very attached to you, but I've never had to do it with some one I've lived with. I've gone searching the web for breakup advice (yes, I'm that lame), there's plenty of good advice about breaking up but nothing specific for people that live together.
So has anyone done this before? I realize it's gonna be messy, it's gonna be hard, but how do you do it? I guess I'm mainly concerned with the logistics of it all. How do you go about moving out all your stuff? We each own about half the furniture. How do you decide who keeps what? Is stuff you bought together, "for the house" yours or hers/his? I supposed this is in many ways what divorcing couples go through, but luckily we only rent and don't have any co-car loans or such.
It would be easier if I knew she wasn't going to be an emotional wreck, and I wouldn't run into the "I can change... we can make this work..." every time I see her. I also feel bad because we're somewhat financially dependent on each other, me more so than her, but I'll feel bad dumping the entirety of the bills on to her. She has a good paying job and would be okay on her own, I'm still a student working part time. I'm not really sure where I'll go for the moment, but I'll figure something out.
I don't deal well with emotional trauma and I'm afraid I'll cave to her co-dependency when she starts the tears. So how do you guys deal with it all?