Every once in a while, I (and I'm sure you all do as well) somehow make friends with someone in denial. I think its cause some people are really good at lying to themselves. Anyways, being someone who has actively pursued his own issues and fixed them to the best of his ability, seeing it in others triggers that same stimuli. Unfortunately, I can never get through to these people.
I will explain the situation as briefly as possible.
A friend of mine is engaged. She is gorgeous (and yes a bit insecure about her looks), lived what she called a 'sheltered life', after turning eighteenth drinks a lot (50% alcohol drinks), wants a family by yesterday, definitely a Feeler (she makes a lot of her choices based on her feelings), and has been abandoned by every boyfriend she ever had (I assume it was due to the lack of sex).
Her fiancÚ is essentially a loner. Got kicked out of his home for some ridiculous family drama, now lives with anyone willing, has done every drug known to man (not literally), is horribly insecure and jealous, and has been cheated on by every girlfriend he ever had.
Just recently, in a bizarre twist, my friend discovered the devastating truth that her man was cheating on her. They've broken up, but she believes they can still have a future.
Personally, I don't think they can survive this, nor should they. In his immaturity, he had the nerve to blame her for everything. In fact, I'm sure the reason he did it was to get back at her for a previous event that she keep secret for so long. One drunken night, she found herself kissing another man; no more than two seconds. It was a poor decision but thats all she did. Whereas he, not only did NOT attempt to deny sleeping with her, actually introduced the other girl to his mother as his girlfriend two weeks before being caught.
My friend is convinced that due to his recent re-introduction to drugs (he had been clean since they got together), this is only a setback. Convinced that the fact he proposed to her about three times means his heart is true, just a little clouded right now.
Does anyone else think this marriage-to-be is a lost cause? If so, how can I help her move on? (I know what you're probably thinking, and no I will not attempt to claim her for myself.)